Sometimes I thought I was just being narcissistic and selfish when I really feel absolute dread in social situations that for me are usually overwhelming.
These are parties or send offs and the like where the crowd is very friendly and chummy and noisy with lots of laughter, joking and hugs!
I try to overcome the dread of being judged negatively and the faulty belief that I have to be a sparkling presence, by talking to my self and telling myself such things as:
"I am in charge of this situation and I will look after you. I promise that I will not desert you and I will be there for you so there is no need to panic. We can do this so lets give it a go"
By this method I can usually pull it off and settle down in the throng knowing that it will not be forever and soon "we" can leave and go home to peace