Insomnia - Surrendering to Stressful Problems

Some problems are too big for us to work out. In this case, we have to learn how to let go of what worries us. By dwelling on problems you cannot solve right away, it only causes emotional turbulence that leads to massive stress. Letting go may be the only course of action you can take to avoid overstressing yourself. Problems develop when you take on more than your body and mind can handle. Your life will be redirected, throwing you off balance.

In order to conquer any problem, the body and mind requires balance. Life can be devastating or exciting. Sometimes our lives can be consuming, confusing, and overwhelming. We experience too much pain as a result. We may experience pain from having too many problems that have not been worked out.

Your problems can get you down, making you feel hopeless, helpless, pitiful, and so forth. You may experience problems in your relationships with others, family problems, debt problems, health problems, or may feel simply fed up with life. Problems with children, school, or our job may lead you into despair. When problems are not solved, they become bigger. Thus, to solve problems you have to react immediately or sometimes simply surrender.

In some instances, you have to be prepared to admit that the problem is out of our hands. When problems seem as though they are out of your control, be honest and admit it. Say, "This is too big for me to handle." Once you surrender the problem, let it go. Don't dwell on it. In the worksheet below, we will instruct you on how to release control and ask for help.

Stressful Problems

Write out your problems, including the ones that may be too big for you to handle on your own. Problems may include family problems, work, debt, school, relationships, health problems, etc. Once you write out your problems, make a list of the ones you feel that you can solve on your own. Take action to solve those problems. Next, note the problems you have that are too big for you to manage on your own. Consider ways to get help with those problems.

Consider Alternative Help

Think of resources, research to find more resources, and be prepared to ask others to help you solve the problems that are out of your control. Let go of any problems that consume you that you just can't seem to solve on your own.

For example, you may struggle to recall someone's name, and the name may be on the tip of your tongue, but just won't come to mind. Surrender. Stop struggling to recall this person's name. Often when we surrender, it releases stress and we find answers staring us in the face.

If you have a medical condition that limits your abilities, tell others. Don't be ashamed. When you tell others about your medical condition and how it affects you, they can be prepared to offer you support and help.

If you fear that someone close to you will abandon you, admit the cause of your fear or suffering. By admitting the cause, you will learn to trust. You will soon discover that you trust that help is on the way, and that someday you will not suffer this fear of abandonment again.

Trusting yourself enables you to rely on yourself instead of others. You can find a new way of life when you build independence skills. Become resourceful. Find new opportunities, ideas, etc. that help you improve your decision-making skills. Expand your knowledge. Expanding your knowledge often leads to a less stressful future.

Surrendering does not mean you are a quitter or a failure. Instead, it means you are a strong person that recognizes that some things are out of your control. It opens up room for asking for help, another positive trait we all must develop.

To be able to surrender, sometimes we have to learn how to detach ourselves from the problem.

Detachment solution

Practice

Visualize yourself detaching from a problem that is out of your control. Pretend that your body is floating away from you. Observe what happens from a distance. Pretend you are watching a play. Observe what happens as you watch the drama unfold. Once you begin to see yourself in a broader perspective, surrendering will come naturally.

Note - If you suspect you have Disassociate Identity Disorder - DID or diagnosed with this condition, do not perform the practice above. Ignore it and request help for your condition.

Fear and paradoxical thinking often hinder us from achieving or reaching our goals. Paradoxical thinking involves having conflicting ideas. When we have conflicting thoughts, it interrupts our lives. Thus, sometimes we can solve the conflicts by searching for the truth. In some instances, we do not have answers and this is when we have to surrender.

Practice

Write out two conflicting ideas you had recently. Go online and research your ideas. Look for supporting information that verifies if the ideas you had are truthful or if they come from misconceptions. Misconceptions are mistaken ideas or views that result in misunderstandings.

Write out your new findings. For example, if you found concrete evidence to support one or both of your ideas, write it out on paper. Examine what you learned.

The point of the previous practice is to help you broaden your mind: to become aware of misconceptions and how they can lead you into paradoxical thinking. When you move to clear up any doubts you may have, it opens the mind to suggestions and learning something new. So make it a habit to verify what you think is true.

The truth will set you free

When we learn the truth about ourselves and the things we think we know, it helps us to build convictions and strong character and relieves our mind of doubts and fears. Thus, if you have conflicting thinking that leads you into doubting something, someone or even yourself, practice daily to find the truth.

Summary

In this article, you opened up your mind to explore problems in a new light. We helped you to see that some problems we cannot solve on our own, so we must ask for help. To conquer insomnia, we have to address our problems, doubts and fears head on. Eliminating problems one-by-one will reduce stress and help you sleep at night. Now let's go into the next article and learn how to use attitudes, affirmations and visualizations to replace negative attitudes.

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