Monthly Archives: February 2015

Motion Sickness: Its Psychological Perspective

Hi folks! Do you feel nauseated, fatigued or pukish while traveling? If yes, then you might be experiencing kinetosis or motion sickness. It is caused when there is a discrepancy or disagreement in our visually perceived movement and our sense of balance or vestibular sense.

Some of the important symptoms of motion sickness are:

Symptoms of Motion Sickness

  • Nausea
  • Restlessness
  • Feelings of worry and tension
  • Fatigue
  • Dizziness
  • Weakness and head reeling

Motion sickness sometimes gets so disturbing that it makes some to stay indoors and not prefer much traveling. It gets aggravated when one is traveling in hilly areas, during summer times and stomach ailments. Depending on the causal aspect of the motion, Kinetosis is also referred to as car sickness, seasickness, airsickness, or simulation sickness. Now let us see some of the causes of motion sickness:

CAUSES OF MOTION SICKNESS

The causes of motion sickness are classified into three broad categories. They are:

  • Motion sickness that is caused when motion is felt but not seen
  • Motion sickness that is caused when motion is seen but not felt
  • When the motion stimulus is felt both by your vestibular and visual systems, but they do not correspond to each other.

Confused??? Let me explain each one of the causes by giving some examples:

Causes Examples
Motion sickness that is caused when motion is felt but not seen Car sickness, airsickness, etc. We see the interior portions of the cars and airplanes as being static. But, when we see outside the roads, trees and the other shapes seem to be moving. So this causes a discrepancy in what we are watching and feeling, thus motion sickness is caused.
Motion sickness that is caused when motion is seen but not felt Video or simulation sickness. When we play games on the simulators, video games or when you watch videos on larger screens (movie halls), the animation of fast objects, flying objects, larger objects, etc tend to cause motion sickness. Here you are just seeing something and feeling sick.
When the motion stimulus is felt both by your vestibular and visual systems, but they do not correspond to each other. While driving in badly maintained roads. This causes a discrepancy between what we are seeing and feeling. O one hand, we would be seeing the vehicle and outside objects move slowly, but our balance/vestibular sense would be sensing severe jerks and movements that are irregular due to the bad roads.

So, now the question is – Is motion sickness related to our psyche in some form? The answer is “YES”!!! Motion sickness that psychological connection too. An interesting and important part of the brain, the area postrema is responsible for causing vomiting when it detects poison It also resolves the conflicts between vision and balance. When you feel or experience something while in motion, if you cannot see the moving objects but still feel the motion… Then your inner ear/vestibule sense signals the ear that it is sensing motion. But, your eyes on the other hand signal that everything is still (since you cannot see the outside objects moving – in case of a ship with no windows, or in case you are seeing the inside of a car and not out of the window). This results your brain to sense that you are hallucinating and moreover, the hallucination is caused due to poisoning. Therefore, to flush out the toxins of your body, as part of the defense mechanism your brain signals your reflux system to throw up. And this ends up in “motion sickness”.

Hope you got the whole idea now. Motion sickness may seem silly at first, but for some it is really frustrating and disturbing. To know about some useful psychological and alternative techniques to deal with motion sickness, check out my next blog coming up shortly!

Fostering Fidelity in Marriage

I, ____, take you, ____, to be my lawfully wedded(husband/wife), to have and to hold, from this day forward, for better, for worse, for richer, for poorer, in sickness and in health, until death do us part.

For better, for worse; in sickness and sadness; in sun and shower of life… Each and every wedded couple takes these promises in some or the other form. Promise to hold each other’s hands beyond eternity, promise to be together no matter what… Marriage is a special bond that unites two people in a strong, ever-lasting bond. But, what happens that marriages do not last for a lifetime? Why do couples stop trusting themselves and seek pleasure outside marriage? Where does the fidelity quotient fade off? Well, if you are also thinking about these questions or are going through a similar phase then this blog is meant for you.

Trust and fidelity are the pillars of an unbreakable marriage. If you and your spouse are trustworthy, then your marital relationship blooms like anything. Once trust and fidelity fits in a marital relationship, then all other forms of marital companionship like love, affection, care, protection, respect and understanding… Everything falls into the perfect picture automatically. Therefore, trust and fidelity have magical effects to make your marriage shine and smile.

However, there are a lot of instances around us in which we see married couples falling apart due to infidelity and breach of trust. This not only affects the married partners but also negatively influences their family, significant others and people related to them either directly or negatively. So, what hampers or affects fidelity in marriage? Let us look at some of the important causes:

Causes of Infidelity in Marriage

  • Lack of mutual trust, mutual understanding and mutual respect
  • Extramarital Affairs
  • Inability to cope with mutual differences in opinion, thoughts, mind-sets and personalities
  • Lack of spending quality time with each other
  • Inability to perform one’s own marital roles and responsibilities
  • Breaking of expectations couples have attached to one another
  • Over-protective nature and over-possessive nature that leaves no space for the spouse to live life with freedom.
  • Conflicts and misunderstandings
  • Effects of stress, tensions and day to day hazels
  • Third-person influence

Like I said earlier, infidelity and breach of trust in a marital relationship leads to unfathomable pain and disturbance in the lives of the married couple and people related to him. This also leads to many physical and psychological imbalances in the form of:

  • Restlessness and physical discomfort
  • Changes in diet and sleep patterns
  • Lack of personal care and hygiene
  • Stress and tension
  • Worries, apprehension and anxiety
  • Depression
  • Social withdrawal or isolation
  • Can lead to drug or alcohol abuse
  • Obsessive thinking and concerned behaviors
  • Suicidal thoughts

That was just a brief overview of what infidelity can do to you, your spouse or your marriage as a whole. It affects all the dimensions of life in a negative way. Therefore, it is very important to foster fidelity in your marital relationship. Here are some of the important ways of doing so:

Ways of Fostering Fidelity in Marriage

  • Mutual understanding: The more you understand your spouse; you will be able to nurture loyalty in your marriage in a better way. Majority of marriages break due to lack of understanding between couples. So, don’t let that happen in your life too. Mutual understanding is the basic and the most significant aspect of making a marriage bloom with trust and fidelity.
  • Mutual Sharing: If you want to share your emotions, expectations, thoughts and viewpoints with your partner… Then please do it! Do not hide your emotions and expect your partner to understand your part of the world. Mutual sharing bridges the gap between both your hearts and minds. Moreover, it is the direct key to enkindle loyalty in your marital relationship.
  • Mutual Respect: No one is perfect folks! In fact, we all strive and thrive towards perfection. Just as you have your own weaknesses and strengths, your spouse would be having the same too. Therefore, respecting each other’s differences is yet another way of working towards increasing fidelity quotient in your marriage.
  • Be a friend first and then a spouse: If you are someone who likes to dominate or be bossy towards your spouse, then it may hamper your marital relationship and will push your beloved away from you. Try to be your partner’s best friend first and then the whole spirit of spouse-hood will flow in automatically. Each one of us needs someone with whom we can feel most comfortable, protected and accepted; rather than being judged and humiliated!
  • Spend “quality” time together: No matter how much time you spend with your better-half, try to spend it meaningfully. In this fast-paced world we hardly find time for our spouse. Sometimes, we also take them for granted. But, this is not fair folks! The one who is married to you needs your quality time too. Even if you have 10 minutes together, spend it meaningfully with love, care, trust, enthusiasm and mutual understanding.
  • Rejoice and rejuvenate: When certain time lapses in a marriage, it tends to get mundane for some couples. This is the biggest reason for infidelity in marriages. Instead of seeking that spark and pleasure outside, try to create the same magic within your marriage. Spend time together, go for a holiday together, send surprise gifts… In short, rejoice and rejuvenate your own marital relationship so that there would be no space for any other third-person’s entry.
  • Do not cheat: If you are falling for someone else outside of your marriage, and if you are getting the feeling that your marriage is not working out, then it is best to share with someone you trust and take professional help of counselor/psychologist too.

Marriage is a pure bond between you and your beloved spouse. Life will always be challenging in a marital relationship. So, marriage is all about stepping on the challenges by holding each other’s hands and crossing over every difficulty with trust, hope, love and belongingness.

With this, I would like to share some wonderful and inspiring lines by Robert Sexton. Starting from being in love with your spouse to nurturing your marital life with trust, hope, positivity, loyalty and understanding… These lines will really motivate you to make your marriage an ideal and a blissful one:

“There is no moment of my life when you are not a part of me; you hold my heart; you guard my soul; you guide my dreams so tenderly. And if my will might be done, and all I long for could come true, with perfect joy I would choose to share eternity with you.” – Robert Sexton

Lots of love dust on you and your spouse!

Surviving a Broken Marriage: An Inspiring Life Episode

Wedding cards beautifully decorated and sent to relatives, mouth-watering cuisines served, mesmerizingly adorned with her wedding attire and ornaments… Dr J got married with her husband amid traditional hymns, pomp and ceremony. The wedding gala was not less than a dream. Her parents left no stoned unturned to make her wedlock a magical and perfect one.

However, life sometimes takes unknown turns and we are not always on the charge of the anchor to change its course. Dr J’s marital life turned into a worst life event and nightmare once she stepped into her in-laws place. Physical abuse and mental torture became the call of the day. Starting from marital rape to domestic violence… She had to bear the brunt of everything that a girl would never have thought in her most terrible visions.

Glimpse of Dr J’s Life before Marriage
She was beautiful like an angel, she was the most intelligent and well-behaved girl among the siblings. Her sincerity, dedication and goodwill were her hallmarks. She was very studious and was always in the good books of her teachers. She was talented in extra-curricular activities too. She sung songs like a nightingale. Her mesmerizing songs and melodious voice had the power to take her listeners to a whole new world altogether! She was the only girl child in her family and had an elder brother too. Therefore, she was the most pampered one. Dr J was very kind, understanding and helped her peers in every way she could.

Dr J excelled in her studies. She wanted to help the ailing. That is why she pursued her higher studies in Homeopathy. She became a Homeopathy Doctor and today she is helping people through her goodness and knowledge in one of the leading hospitals.

In short, Dr J’s life prior to her marriage was a gifted one with happiness, health, goodwill, and everything one would ever wish for.

Lull before the Storm
Dr J’s parents and family ensured that the wedding and the rituals take place in a smooth and sound manner. They left no stone unturned to make the arrangements, make jeweleries for her, and give expensive appliances, vehicle and everything that her in-laws demanded. The home environment was bubbling with happiness and charms, smiles and hopes. But, this was just like a lull before the storm. The worst was yet to come and slice their souls apart.

The overwhelming life episodes
Life after marriage for Dr J was a hellish experience. Day in and day out she had to suffer verbal and emotional abuse by her in-laws. At first, she could not infer all these. She thought may be it was a natural behavioral style of in-laws. But, day by day things worsened. One day her in-laws took her to her parent’s house and returned all the gold ornaments that her parents had given her. They demanded for more gold and said they would accept Dr J back only if they give more gold and other stuff. Since her parents had no way out, they adhered to what her in-laws said. She underwent through marital rape numerous times. Then, there was a phase when her husband did not return back home for nights altogether. When she asked her mother-in-law, she said that he has a night shift in work. Finally, the worst happened one day. It was a festival in their house and amid all guests; a lady arrived with two small girls. When Dr J asked about her, she said she was the first wife of Dr J’s husband and the two girls were their daughters.

The Quest
Dr J’s life changed for a lifetime after she knew this. First her life came to a halt as she had no idea how to move ahead in life. Then, she thought to stand up for herself and fight back. She slammed a case on her husband and he was caught red-handed from his first wife’s home. His first wife was a prostitute and he married Dr J only because of money and ulterior motives. Then Dr J filed a divorce against him. He never came to the court sessions. But, after Dr J’s strong reaction finally he had to bow down. The divorce case is yet to settle down now. But, the best decision that Dr J took was to walk out and put an end to the horrendous marriage.

Battle thereafter…
She lost her virginity, she lost her money and materials… The society stigmatized her and relatives went away… From personal loss to social loss, Dr J suffered in every dimension of her life due to the marriage. But, she did not give up. She decided to live life to its fullest as she had not done anything wrong.

Some motivating ideals she has in her life are:

  • We cannot change the past, but we have the potential to work in the present and beautify our future.
  • Life is for once; if today there is pain… Tomorrow there will be happiness too. So live on, and do not give up.

Dr J aspires to be a skilled Doctor one day and help the ailing in every way she can. She wants to adopt a girl child so that she can groom the girl into a strong, independent and responsible citizen and human being altogether. So, what are the guiding factors that help one to survive a broken marriage? Here are some key points:

  • Strong determination and will-power
  • Courage
  • Acceptance of reality
  • Working towards self-acceptance and self-development
  • Looking into one’s strong points and working on them
  • Looking into the future with hope rather than lack of faith
  • Positive thinking and self-affirmations
  • Unclenching desire to move forward no matter how the situations are or how the society reacts
  • The strong urge to live life like a legendary warrior and fight against all odds
  • The urge to live life… No matter what.

After all it is your life, and no one has the right to take it away from you. It is your life and you are the best person who can do every justice to it!!! So folks, its time to stand up, believe in you, shed the shackles of pain and take charge!!!

Speech Anxiety and its Treatment Options

Hi all! Hope you are doing well. Today we will be discussing about the treatment options available for speech anxiety. Do you know what speech anxiety is? Glossophobia or speech anxiety is the fear of speaking in public or speaking in general. The term Glossophobia is derived from the Greek word “γλῶσσα glōssa meaning tongue and φόβος Phobos
meaning fear or being afraid.

The symptoms of Speech Anxiety or Glossophobia include heightened anxiety levels before speaking in public or at the thought of the same, avoiding social gatherings, social phobia, and palpitations, blurred speech, disturbed speech, fumbling, instability in speech, feeling thirsty, frequent urination, profuse sweating, isolation, feeling panicky, restlessness, physical distress and mental instability.

Speech anxiety is an overwhelming experience for those who become a victim of it. Its like you want to say something or express your feelings-thoughts-emotions, but you cannot do it due to the anxiety glued to it. The connection between the body and mind does not seem to be in a balance in glossophobia or speech anxiety. Since speech anxiety involves different categories of symptoms viz. verbal, non-verbal, physiological and psychological… Sometimes it is difficult for some to decide the right professional to approach for the treatment of speech anxiety. Due to the different dimensions of problems/symptoms it is challenging to diagnose speech anxiety at the first place.

Therefore, it is very important to consult a mental health professional if you suspect that you are facing speech anxiety symptoms. Here is an overview of the kinds of professionals who can help you to deal with speech anxiety or glossophobia:

Psychologists

With an extensive training and experience in the field of clinical psycho-diagnostics and psychopathology, psychologists are the main health professionals who can help you to overcome speech anxiety with greater efficacy. Psychologists use different kind of psychological therapies and counseling to help you with the same. Some examples of psychological therapies that they use to help people deal with speech anxiety are:

  • Cognitive Behavior Therapy (CBT)
  • Behavior therapy
  • Exposure therapy
  • Counseling
  • Client-centered Therapy/counseling
  • Family and support therapy (if needed)
  • Relaxation training

Psychiatrists

If the speech anxiety or glossophobia is due to chemical imbalances, neurochemical disturbances or hormonal imbalances, then psychiatrists are the best persons to help you in this regard. Psychiatrists provide pharmacological interventions or medicines to correct the chemical imbalances that may be causing speech anxiety and its co-morbid symptoms.

It is seen that if you have moderate to severe speech anxiety then taking medicines as well as psychotherapies will give you great relief and long-term protection from relapse.

Speech-language Pathologists or speech therapists

Speech therapists or speech pathologists provide therapies to correct the speech or language defects/problems arising due to speech anxiety. If the speech anxiety causes marked fumbling, stammering or stuttering then the speech therapist can help you with fluency shaping techniques along with effective reinforcement strategies.

Vocal/verbal/spoken language trainers

Starting from personality development to confidence building, from vocabulary to articulation, from voice modulation to effectual expression… Vocal or verbal trainers also play a vital role in helping you deal with glossophobia or speech anxiety. They use wide array of methods that would help you to harness your positive skills and groom your personality in a unique and dynamic manner. Other than this vocal trainers also provide training in aspects like how to control your voice and speech in different situations, how to use the right words at the right place, how to build a good vocabulary, how to carry yourself confidently in social situations, how to speak clearly and in an error-free manner, how to influence and mesmerize the minds of the crowd with your speech skills, voice control, word articulation, correct pronunciation… Language/vocal trainers would help you in an all-round manner.

So folks! If you are suffering from speech anxiety or glossophobia then please don’t hesitate to seek help from professional who are already well-equipped and experienced to help you. With the regular practice of therapies and self-improvement, speech therapy can be dealt with in a significant manner.

Tips to Raise Psychologically Healthy and Happy Kids

Hi folks! Hope you have read my blog on “Stress and Anxiety in Children”. This blog is a continuation of the blog. In this blog I would be helping you with some effective techniques to raise psychologically healthy and happy children. So here we go:

  1. Create a safe and happy environment around your home: The more your home environment is safe and jolly for your child, the more psychologically healthy he/she will be. A good and balanced home environment fosters sense of security, self-confidence, sound physical health and overall sense of well-being in a child.
  2. Appreciate your child: Like us, children also want to be appreciated for their achievements and actions. No matter how small or silly your child’s act is… Try to be generous in appreciating your lil’ champ. Appreciation improves self-concept and self-esteem in your child. It also helps him/her master new skills, focus, a well-defined personality and motivation.
  3. Spend quality time with your kid: Even in your busy work schedules, stress and pressures try spending quality time with your child. Talk about your day, try to connect with your child, know more about him/her, try to inculcate a good value system in your child and show your love-warmth-affection. Some parents think that spending time with their kids is like a duty. If you are also thinking like this, then you need to understand that more than a duty it should be a priority. You child is the blessing of your love… The innocent, pure and Heavenly expression of what you and your partner created. So never fall behind in expressing to your child how much you love him/her and what he/she means to you.
  4. Make every corner of your home speak your heart out: If you are a working parent or a busy homemaker, then try to communicate your love and affection plus the way you want your child to be in alternative ways. Hanging family pictures or good times spent with your child on the walls, decorating your home with your kid, inspirational wall hangings, etc are some of the effective and interesting ways to communicate the right message to your child.
  5. Be an active listener: Even if you are a kind of person who wants to talk more and listen less, try to listen to your child as much as you can. Sometimes children convey messages that are very important in their lives and development. If you miss out these important points, then this may lead to serious complications.
  6. Do not discuss or enter into conflicts in front of your child: Children are very sensitive and their minds are very perceptive too. They tend to record and sink into each and every thing they observe. This creates their thinking and responding styles. So, if you fight or create conflicting situations with your partner, your child gets very psychologically disturbed. It shatters his/her thought-world, makes him/her confused, isolated, depressed, aggressive, hostile and he/she develops many personality deficit. So, the rule of the thumb is, try to keep conflicts at bay. Discuss and try to resolve the issues when your child is not around. “Treat others the way you want to be treated”.
  7. Supervise your kid while socializing, watching TV and during exposure to such social/media aspects: I have seen many parents allowing their children to watch TV or socialize without proper guidance. In this process sometimes children are exposed to violent scenes and other negative things that convey the wrong messages to them. This leads to a negative and unhealthy psychological reaction in your child and makes him/her susceptible to mental health issues too. Try to sit with your child and supervise him/her in such situations so that they understand and learn the right things.
  8. Do not compare or underestimate your child in front of others: Let me ask you a question: Would you like a scenario in which someone despises or underestimates you, points your weaknesses and flaws? No, right? If someone does this, you would obviously feel bad and dejected. The same thing applies to your child too. Try not to discuss or say about your child’s weaknesses or flaws in front of others. Never compare your child with another too. This destroys his/her self-confidence and puts a very negative impact on your child’s personality, thinking patterns, etc. It makes him/her more depressed, confused, stressed out, isolated and anxious. I am sure you won’t like that to happen.  Your child is the most precious possession you have and is gifted with his/her own unique qualities. So try to recognize and acknowledge that. If you want your child to work on his/her weaknesses, instead of telling it to others, make your child sit with you and both of you plan and workout on how the weaknesses and problems can be sorted out.
  9. Understand the difference between reinforcement and punishment: Reinforcement leads to positive outcome while punishment leads to negative reactions and behavior If you want your child to give up a bad habit or something negative, then try to reinforce and shape a desirable behavior rather than punishing him/her.
  10. Be a parent cum friend cum role model for your child: Love and guide like a parent, support and understand like and friend and be an inspiration for your child like a role model. This will help your child to develop into a fully-developed human being with the greatest gifts of a sound physical health, a well-balanced mental health and it will help your child to grow into a fully-functioning individual.

Becoming parents and parenting are different facets of helping your children grow. Anyone can become a parent, but to foster effective parenting that boosts a good psychological well-being in your child is a challenging aspect. Parenting is an art. The more creative and careful you are, the more worthwhile children you would gift to this world.

Stress and Anxiety in Children

Children are the purest form of innocence, truth, beauty… and one of the best creations on the Earth. Without children our lives would have been colorless and lifeless. Childhood is the most fascinating phases of human life. Starting from the babbling of a baby to the happy chuckles of a toddler; children make the world more bright and bountiful.

However, in the weary dreary world of today, your tiny tots are becoming the innocent victims of the rat race of competition, zooming fast-paced lifestyle, demands of successful living and the changing societal norms. The way children are oscillating between a competitive world and the environment encircling them, is making them fall prey to many physical and psychological ailments. Among them, the most common problems are Childhood Stress and Anxiety. The lifetime prevalence rate of Childhood Anxiety is about 25.1%. The number is still increasing at an alarming rate. Owing to this, I would be discussing about the technical know-how of childhood stress and anxiety so that you can save your child from the clutches of these problems and suffering.

Causes of Childhood Stress and Anxiety

  • Genetic effects
  • Environmental factors
  • Competition and thriving towards achievement
  • Parental expectations
  • Parental conflicts
  • Peer pressure, and pressure from academic staff
  • Hormonal changes, life transition and lifestyle patterns
  • Need for self-development, self-concept, self-esteem and striving to come at par with the norms and roles of the society.

Problems caused due to Stress and Anxiety in Children

  • Poor performance in academic activities
  • Social withdrawal and need to stay isolated
  • Physical discomfort in the form of palpitations, sweating, frequent urination, trembling, speech anxiety,nightmares,  bed-wetting, panic attacks, disturbed sleep, diet changes, etc.
  • Lack of concentration and focus, problems in memory and complex cognitive skills like decision-making, etc.
  • Depression and suicidal ideations/attempts
  • Lack of self-esteem and confidence
  • Lack of emotional bonding with parents, relatives or care-givers or children may become more panicky and clingy on the flip side.

Children are like sponge soaked in water. They are very sensitive towards their surroundings and easily soak what is said or done to them. That is why, it is very necessary to bring up your children in the most delicate yet effective manner so that they don’t fall prey to the childhood psychological ailments. They have their entire future in front of them. So let us all build our children’s lives in such a way that they can reap a beautiful and meaningful future ahead.

If you want to know more about positive parenting and how to build your child’s life so that your lil’ champ leads a happy, healthy and fulfilling life… then check out my next blog folks!!!

Best wishes,

Sareeta

Live Life Meaningfully

This life is just for once… None of us know what is before or beyond it. So, that we have in our hands is this life, the present time or the present moment. I know that you have your own commitments, work pressures, duties and responsibilities to take care of. I know that you have your own dreams and aspirations too. However, have you thought that ultimately what would be the significance and implication of all this, of all your deeds and endeavors? Whatever you are doing, is it sensible and worth? And in the muddle of the stressors and pressures of life… Is there still meaning and purity alive?

Each and every deed of yours defines you; it speaks volumes of the hard work and sincerity that you have. It reflects your goodness and magnanimity of your heart and soul. There is no doubt in it. However, at times you may be shaken off balance or off your track due to the negative forces of sadness, dejections, failures and frustrations, malice and wrong thoughts, illness and agitations. When this happens, it is very difficult to breathe life into life again. It becomes a Herculean task to guide life into the positive track again.

I came across some wonderful life-changing lines whiles reading. Those lines show us the true meaning of life, how it should be lived and what should be our endeavors to build a beautiful world for ourselves and others. So here it goes:

Promise Yourself

To be so strong that nothing

can disturb your peace of mind.

To talk health, happiness, and prosperity

to every person you meet.

To make all your friends feel

that there is something in them

To look at the sunny side of everything

and make your optimism come true.

To think only the best, to work only for the best,

and to expect only the best.

To be just as enthusiastic about the success of others

as you are about your own.

To forget the mistakes of the past

and press on to the greater achievements of the future.

To wear a cheerful countenance at all times

and give every living creature you meet a smile.

To give so much time to the improvement of yourself

that you have no time to criticize others.

To be too large for worry, too noble for anger, too strong for fear,

and too happy to permit the presence of trouble.

To think well of yourself and to proclaim this fact to the world,

not in loud words but great deeds.

To live in faith that the whole world is on your side

so long as you are true to the best that is in you.”

– Christian D. Larson, Your Forces and How to Use Them

Hope you liked the above lines friends! Life is an unknown journey in which we live mindfully and acquire milestones after milestones. We put maximum efforts to maximize our happiness and minimize pains. Sometimes, we are successful in it while at times we fail too. So, when you feel like you are losing the battle of life, do not give up! There is still hope. Remember the words above and keep the Promise.

Live life meaningfully and happily!!!

Test your Emotional World

Emotions play an integral part in the sun and shade of your life. If you are emotionally strong then no one and nothing can disturb or defeat you in the crossroads of life. However, if you are emotionally weak, then probably you may encounter innumerable problems day in and day out.

Your emotions are thus, the gateways to your happiness or sadness, peace or feelings of agitation, positivity or negativity in general. How is your emotional world then? Are you emotionally strong or weak? Are your emotions healthy or need improvisations? Take the test below to find out ad explore your emotional world:

Test your emotional world

  • Do you consider yourself as being emotionally sensitive?
  • How would you relate yourself: Emotional or easy-going?
  • Do your friends or relatives call you “an emotional fool”?
  • How do you react when you see a negative event in front of you: Do you get hurt easily? Do you burst into tears? Or do you hold yourself strong?
  • What is your problem-solving strategy: Do you tend to use your heart or mind more? Do you look into emotional descriptions or practical solutions?
  • What do you like more:  natural scenery or a logical word-game?
  • What do you like to do when you are alone: Would you like to listen to some soft, soothing music, or go partying with your friends?
  • Do you enjoy being alone or do you like to be around people?
  • How do you sleep: Do you like to sleep in your own free style or do you like cuddling a pillow or a soft toy?
  • Do you consider yourself as being an introvert or an extrovert?
  • How would you describe yourself: Calm, quite or excited and full of energies?

Psychologists say that if you consider yourself to be an emotional person, if you are sensitive towards your feelings and surroundings, if you like soothing music and staying isolated… Then you are an emotional person. If you like to cuddle up a pillow or soft toy while sleeping, if you can easily get hurt or burst into tears, if you are calm-quite-introverted and like natural sceneries… Then also you tend to be quite emotional.

Being an emotional or emotionally sensitive person has its own positive aspects. The depth and clarity of your emotional can adorn you with many positive and higher values of life. Your emotions and their abundance can make you pure-hearted, loving and caring, philosophical, understanding, empathetic and sincere. However, at times people may take undue advantage of your emotions and goodness. So, you need to beware of it and see that you are emotionally safe.

On the other hand, if your emotional strength is higher, if you are a practically oriented person and live life through your mind rather than your heart, then you have amazing strength, energies and vitality. You tend to have excellent planning – coordination – decision-making skills. You tend to be attention-seeking at times. And you have top-notch leadership qualities too. Your emotional strength and practical approach makes you a leader and helps you to help people who need your support.

Therefore, folks!!! Emotions have an extraordinary potentiality to give shape and direction to your life. The more emotionally healthy you are, the happier you will be. Emotional health is very necessary for all-round development in life. Your emotional world in a way defines you and your entity.

The world of emotions is sensitive, beautiful and is filled with astonishing life-changing potentials. The more you know about your emotions and the effectively you handle them… The easily you will be propelled towards overall sense of health, happiness, success, peace, contentment and well-being!!!

Mood Swings in Everyday Life

Moods manifest themselves in manifold hues and shades. Sometimes you may fell happy, while sometimes sad; at times you may feel irritated and at times elated. Different internal and external stimuli in your life lead to the expression of your moods in different ways. It is so interesting, isn’t it? If you maintain a mood diary and write about the varied kinds of moods you underwent on a given day, you will find amazing variations in it. Without our feelings, emotions and moods life would have been so mundane and automated. Moods add meaning and significance to life as a whole.

Do not get confused between moods and emotions. Moods are less intense in nature and can be either of a positive valence or negative valence. However, emotional reactions are much more intense and long-lasting. Etymologically, the word mood is derived from the Old English mōd which means military courage. It also refers to a person’s disposition, temperament or humor at a given period or particular time. Moods are of psychological importance as they play a vital role in regulating one’s daily life functioning. Your moods have significant influence on your personal life, social interactions, peer group interactions, professional life and your entire life ‘n’ lifestyle as a whole. Therefore, it is very important to recognize your moods, understand them and keep them under your conscious control.

Mood has to be controlled. Otherwise, it’s your master.” – Toba Beta, My Ancestor Was an Ancient Astronaut

Factors Influencing Moods

There are several factors that influence your moods and mood swings. Some of the pivotal ones are:

Factors Influencing Moods Descriptions
Lifestyle A good, well-balanced and healthy lifestyle leads to happy and healthy mood states. An unhealthy lifestyle makes you agitated, irritated, restless and mentally unstable
Diet Some foods and flavors like hot, spicy and tangy ones lead to moods of negative valence
Sleep If you do not get a good night’s sleep, if you are experiencing hypersomnia or hyperinsomnia… then these sleep problems are very likely to make your mood states unstable and lead to mood swings
Social Mood Sometimes your moods are influenced by the societal behavior or the crowd that you are in. If the people around you are in a good mood, you will feel the same too and vice versa
Medical Conditions Hormonal imbalances, menstrual cycles, PMS (Premenstrual symptoms), pregnancy, menarche, menopause, psychological medical conditions like depression, mania, etc are seen to influence your moods in different ways
Positive vs Negative Moods Positive and negative moods are also seen to play a vital role in the maintenance and regulation of moods. They are also influential in mood swings.

Mood swings are subjective in nature. Everything in and around you can radically alter your mood system. Passing or flunking an exam, getting loved or losing a loved one, falling sick or feeling healthy… Variations in your experiential world take you in a tour of different moods and mood swings. Sometimes understanding your moods and dealing with mood swings is easy. However, if you are unable to deal with mood swings, handle your moods or going through a medical condition that is influencing your moods then try the following tips and techniques:

Identify your moods

Many people don’t even realize the kind of mood they are experiencing or the fact that they are going through a mood swing! So, the first step towards controlling or dealing with your moods is to identify your mood tone. Are you happy or sad… are you feeling alright or emotionally restless—-try to ask yourself such questions and identify the tone and valence of your moods.

Release your moods

If you have a habit of bottling up or hiding your emotions or reactions, please don’t do so. If you are experiencing a mood and its reaction try to express it in adaptable ways. The more you bottle up or hide your moods, the more restless and agitated you will feel. This may also lead to severe mental health issues in future. So, if you are happy then smile, if you are sad then feel free and shed a few tears—-it’s quite natural.

Identify the triggers

There must be something that would be aggravating your negative moods or mood swings. Therefore, you need to identify the triggers and deal with them accordingly.

Lifestyle

Eat healthy, sleep well, exercise, socialize with good people… In short maintain a good lifestyle. The healthier your lifestyle is, the healthier your moods will be.

Seek professional help

If you are frequently experiencing negative moods or mood swigs, then it could be due to a medical or psychological condition. In such a case, it is wise to seek professional help. Psychologists and psychiatrists can help you to effectively deal with it.

It’s Psycho-Quiz time: Test your Psycho-knowledge Skills

Hi folks! It’s time to test, rejuvenate and revive your psycho-knowledge skills. The more you know about psychology in everyday life, the more you know about mental health and the knowledge related to it… You can stay healthy, happy and deal with the stressors and pressures of life with greater efficacy. Our mental world, brain and its chemistry, body organs, thoughts, feelings and behaviors are all unique in themselves, aren’t they?

Interestingly, each and every bodily and mental function control and influence our practical and daily living to a significant extent. Not only in dealing with the curve-balls of life, but also in taking preventive and curative measures, etc… Knowing about our own body-brain mechanisms helps us in our all-round development too.

So here I present a crossword puzzle to you with questions. The questions are mentioned below and after that the answers are hidden in the crossword puzzle. Let us see how you do it and score!!!

Puzzle Questions:

  • One of the brain’s important function that helps in the process, storage and retrieval of information
  • Right handed persons are called
  • Persons with left hand dominance are known as
  • Who is the father of Psychology
  • Irrational, extreme fear of something is known as
  • If you are feeling very sad, dejected, hopeless, helpless, melancholic… you are probably suffering from
  • Which gas makes you laugh beyond control? Hint: It is also known as “laughing gas”
  • The functional part of the human brain
  • An important neurotransmitter or brain chemical
  • Your short term or working memory can hold… Bits of information
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W B X F I Z O P A R H O
G U V K S M W J P K Y S
A U N Q G B T S H O M I
B A N D O D U C O Q Y N
A N P T T D F O B V P E
N M A Y G O P M I N D S
Q E W D E X T R A L S T
R O V T N K J E W X O R
A F X E G U B V L E S A
I N O I S S E R P E D L
M E M O R Y N G B P Y S

So folks! Hope you did the puzzle correctly. The more you score the right answers, the more your “psycho-knowledge” is. So give in your best shot and try out your best. Do share with us how many correct answers you got. The correct answers will be posted tomorrow.

If you have any queries regarding the questions and their answers, if you want to know more about the concepts then please feel free to write to us. If you are going through a difficult phase of your life, then also please feel free to write to us. Together, we can find a way to deal with your potential problems. We would be happy to assist you in any and every way we can.

Good Luck and Happy Quiz-Solving Time!!!