Category Archives: Cognitive Behavioral Therapy at a Glance

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Since its inception in 2009, is dedicated in helping individuals to deal with their mental health and life transition problems. We believe in helping individuals deal with their potential problems. For us, our clients are not mere case-loads or members. Rather, for us nothing is more important than our client’s health, well-being, dignity and integrity. When you join us on-board, it is not just a mere professional relationship. It is a strong bond of goodwill beyond the horizons of eternity. We care, that’s why we are here to help you in any and every way we can. is ornated with experienced, talented, knowledgeable and licensed therapists and personnel. Today we are one of the leading virtual/online therapy systems on the Internet. With our excellent service delivery, we have achieved manifold milestones in terms of providing expert therapy services to our clients.

Whether you or your near ones are suffering from depression, anxiety, stress, relationship issues, bipolar, OCD and so on, help is just a click away! The team works round the clock from different parts of the globe to help you deal with your potential problems, to mend broken hearts and heal distressed minds.

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Daily Worksheet Feedback This is one of the most striking feature of our services. It is the strongest connection between you and your personal online therapist. Once you join us, your personal therapist will impart you daily worksheet feedback based on your worksheet comments. The worksheets are based on Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (which is the most effective form of psychotherapy so far). Working on the worksheet is almost like attending a face-to-face therapy session. You can pour out your problems and precious emotions as much as you want. And your therapist will always be there to help you out.
Email Interactions In addition to live chat and worksheet therapy sessions, you can also connect with the customer services and your personal therapist via emails.
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Self-Harming behaviour: The act of harming or inflicting pain to oneself

selfharm2Have you seen someone slashing, cutting, inflicting pain to himself or herself? In the starting phase of my clinical career I was awe-struck and shocked one day. I saw a teenager bleeding profusely. He had self-mutilated his wrists and hands…neither once, nor twice but multiple times. Frankly speaking, I could not take up that case as it was too alarming for me. I referred the case. When I intervened later, I got to know that he suffered from huge psychological distress. He was offered extensive psycho-therapies and support. Finally he got well.

My therapy board today is thronged with many clients who suffer from self-harming behavior. The worst sufferers of it are mostly teenagers. When in normal conditions even a pin-prick hurts a lot, the question that arises is how can a person move about and harm himself/herself so badly? There are actually deep-seated factors in it, more than you can see. Let me tell you more about self-harming behavior.

As the name suggests, self-harming behavior is the act of causing harm or injury to oneself through different means. Though, the forms and means of self-harming behavior can vary from person to person, yet you should know that it has an underlying psychological issue for sure. Therefore, self-harm is something that is visible on the body, but is connected to one’s mind.

Self-Harming behaviors:

  • Cutting
  • Hand or wrist slashing
  • Self-mutilation in different parts of the body
  • Verbal or behavioral abuse of self
  • Addiction, like drugs/alcohol
  • Disturbing or refraining from one’s sleep, food and leading a sedentary lifestyle

Self-harming behavior has a deep-rooted psychological cause. It is very necessary to know about the psychological causes of self-harming behavior. This is a significant requirement because if the psychological issue goes un-treated or unresolved then in worst cases self-harming behavior can transform itself into clinical depression and suicide.

Underlying Psychological Causes of Self-Harming Behavior:

  • Faulty coping to life’s stressors and pressures
  • Stress, anxiety and depression
  • Personality Issues
  • Low self-confidence, low self-esteem and sense of self
  • Lack of feeling accepted in one’s family, peer group or social circle
  • Aggression and agitation
  • Clinical psychological disorders, hallucinations and delusions

How to deal with Self-Harming Behaviour:

  • Learn adaptive ways of dealing with the stressors and pressures of life
  • Try to pacify your anger and aggression surge. Practice of self-control. Thinking about alternative healthy behavior and relaxation techniques often help in this case
  • Believing in yourself, developing a strong and dynamic personality
  • Self-care: Maintaining a good physical and sound emotional health
  • Abstinence from alcohol and drug abuse
  • Communicating or sharing your feelings with someone who understands you
  • Proper treatment: If the self-harming behavior is too chronic, acute or if it is caused due to clinical categories of psychological ailments

If you or any of your loved one is suffering from self-harming behavior, then please don’t neglect it. Apart from psychological interventions the person needs intense care, support and empathetic understanding of one and all. Self-harming behavior is undoubtedly treatable and often clients lead a magnificently healthy life after proper treatment.

Please do not hesitate to contact us if you or any of your near and dear ones are ailing from self-harm behavior. A strong and right decision taken by you can save a life for a lifetime.

Best Wishes,

Domestic Violence: It’s Psychological Aftermath


Battered and shattered, wounded and bruised, bleeding and crying…Every now and then we hear different stories related to domestic violence or literally go through it. Needless to say, domestic violence is one of the most heinous acts done on a female (or male). Do you know who the worst sufferers of this are? Its women, children and significant others related to them. I remember coming across a woman who was a community worker in our NGO. Everyday I would see a new wound, cut or bruise in her body. I asked her about that, but she never told the truth.

But, one day she came to the office and was profusely bleeding. Her husband ran after her holding a knife. I was literally shocked. That day I realized that she was a victim of domestic violence. In this her husband and her in-laws were the main culprit. She was immediately taken to the hospital for treatment, and then we took her to the Women’s Welfare Cell in order to help her and impart her due justice. She got well within a few days. Her husband and her in-laws were put behind the bars. Though she got saved and her wounds got healed. But, the scars that the torture had left had a deep impact on her memories and emotions.

The community worker got out of the trauma through intensive care, counseling and support. However, every nook and corner of the world is filled with some or the other household where a woman is put into the hearth of domestic violence. Stories, situations and crimes may be silent or go unreported…but, it certainly rips off the soul apart. The body and mind getting wounded due to domestic violence is just another aspect.

Now let us know what the underlying cause of domestic violence is. In other words, why do people resort to this hellish act.

Causes of Domestic Violence:

  • Personality problems of the perpetrator
  • Self-esteem issues, behavioral issues, mental health issues, poor environment, aggravating factors including family n peers, lack of anger or impulse control
  • Addiction, drug abuse, personality deficits, bad childhood experiences
  • Underlying biological and psychological disorder
  • Faulty coping with life’s stressors, pressures and challenges; learning domestic violence from one’s own family or relatives (model behavior)
  • Marital conflicts, unfulfilled expectations, ego clash, hatred, jealousy
  • Overall causes of domestic violence include physical factors, social factors, family environment; learning and modeling behavior; peer – group influence, addiction, psychological and personality problems, etc.

Types of Domestic Violence:

Do you know domestic violence is not just a combination of two words; it is inflicted to a person in different hurtful ways. Here are some of the forms of domestic violence that a victim has to suffer:

  • Physical abuse: Includes beating, assault, aggression, etc
  • Sexual abuse: Worst form is marital rape, genital mutilation, criminal coercion, sexual violence, sexual slavery, etc
  • Emotional and verbal abuse
  • Economic deprivation
  • Honor killings, acid throwing, bride burning, dowry violence

In other words, there are many ways in which domestic violence can manifest itself. There is no one typical and distinctive form of it. It is often thought that domestic violence only occurs in a marital relationship and that to only on women. But, this is not entirely correct. Domestic violence also occurs in a live-in relationship, dating cohabitation, on men, and in same-sex relationships. Apart from the ovbious forms of physical, mental, social and economic torture sometimes the culprit also causes pain to the victim through criminal coersion, trespassing, kidnapping, harassment and stalking.

Psychological Repercussions of Domestic Violence:

I hope by now you must have understood how dangerous and hurtful domestic violence can be. Apart from the obvious physical afflictions, it leads to serious psychological impact too. Some of the common psychological problems caused due to domestic violence are:

  • Personality problems: Lowering of sense of self, self-esteem, self-confidence and dynamism in one’s personality
  • Emotional problems, mood swings, emotional tantrums, anger outbursts
  • Typical mental health issues like irrational fear, post traumatic stress disorder, depression, anxiety and intense stress, etc
  • Self-harm and in worst cases suicide

We at are committed to helping anyone suffering from the psychological issues due to domestic violence. If you or any of your loved one is going through this rough phase of life, then please don’t hesitate to contact us. As a victim, you should know about the law, support system available, helplines and virtually any and every way that can hep you get off the vicious clutches of domestic violence.

Dedicated to help you,

An introduction to “psycho-diagnostics”


Confused by reading the title??? Psycho-diagnostics is nothing but the way through which psychologists diagnose different mental health problems. Either you or your loved one have a mental health issue or you are keeping good health. Both ways a sound knowledge of psycho-diagnostics is going to help you. Today, we are faced with varied situations and challenges. Starting from conception to education, examination to recruitment. Everywhere psycho-diagnostic tools are used. Some common examples are at a psychologist’s clinic, during a personal interview, in an educational/career counseling session, and so on.

Psycho-diagnostic tools are prepared by highly qualified and experienced personnels in the field of psychology. They are allowed for clinical and non-medical use after intensive and extensive research on their reliability, standardization, validity, usability, whether it adheres to a certain cultural norm or not and many such important factors. Based on their nature and usability the time to administer them varies.

Psychological testing or psycho-diagnostics can be used for multiple purposes. Some of them are:

Uses of Psycho-diagnostics:

  •  In medical settings for assessing behavioral and emotional problems
  • For mental health issues
  • While performing in an interview or test
  • In organizational settings
  • In forensics and insurance
  • Educational or school environment

Starting from simple paper-pen tests to machine-tests like CT-Scan, PET-Scan….Do you know psychological tests are of various kinds? See below for the multitude of psycho-diagnostic tests are in use in today’s era:

1.     IQ/Achievement Tests These tests test and quantify your intelligence and ability in various tasks/fields.
2.     Aptitude Test  Whether you have an aptitude or propensity in a certain field – aptitude tests measure this.
3.     Employment Test  These tests are widely used in employment settings. Often they assess your behavior, cognitive skills, and personality.
4.     Neuropsychological Test These are the ones that are designed to test your brain’s functioning, neurological functioning, etc
5.     Personality Test
As the name suggests, personality tests measure your personality functioning, type of personality, personality deficits or disorders, and the like
6.     Objective Test  Objective tests have definite responses and are often in true/false format.
7.     Projective Tests  They mostly come in the form of pictures and are meant to reflect your sub-conscious mind. Projective tests help a clinician in assessing the deeper roots of your problems/symptoms.
8.     Sexological tests These tests are used to look into the sexological issues, discomfort, problem or dysfunction pertaining to the sexological aspect of an individual.

As you have seen above, there are wide array of psycho-diagnostic tools available today. Either they are used for medical/pathological or treatment purposes or they are used for assessment in various settings. We at have highly standardized, reliable and valid online psychological tests for various aspects of mental health and daily life functioning. If you or your near and dear ones are facing any of the below mentioned issues, then you can easily take the free online tests. However, for a final diagnosis a validation by our therapist or clinician is necessary. This will help ensure the clinical/medical or scientific nature of your presenting problem/symptom.

Online Therapy Program Links to the free online tests
Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD)
Generalized Anxiety Disorder (GAD)
Obsessive CompulsiveDisorder (OCD)
Panic Attacks
Post traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD)
Relationship Problems
Social Anxiety
Speech anxiety
Weight problems


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Generalized Anxiety Disorder (GAD): The Clinical Perspective

Generalized Anxiety Disorder (GAD): The Clinical Perspective

“Our anxiety does not empty tomorrow of its sorrows, but only empties today of its strengths.” 
― Charles H. Spurgeon

24/7 anxiety about anything and everything…in technical terms this is known as “Generalized Anxiety Disorder” (Acronym: GAD). There are times when you would feel anxious about certain event like an examination, a presentation, a blind date or an interview etc. These are common situations in which almost everyone tends to shiver with fear or apprehension. But, GAD is something more profound. People with GAD get anxious about anything and everything. They worry a lot about health, money relations, illness, death, profession…..virtually everything that life beholds.

When you would come across such people you would understand that they are too much worrisome and tend to apprehend worse than the worst. Living life with GAD is not easy. It is challenging from the one suffering from it as well as his/her care-takers. What makes it difficult is the high anxiety level that interferes in the daily life living or functioning of the individual.

Often GAD is misdiagnosed and misunderstood as an Anxiety Disorder. Therefore, it is very important to know and comprehend GAD from the clinical perspective. Let us look into some of the clinical signs and symptoms of Generalized Anxiety Disorder.

Physical Symptoms:

•    Trembling
•    Tiredness or fatigue
•    Sleep disturbances (Insomnia)
•    Palpitations
•    Shortness of breathe
•    Numbness in hands and feet
•    Excessive sweating
•    Hot flushes , rashes and excessive perspiration
•    Body aches and muscle tension

Psychological Symptoms:

•    Excessive worry, irrational fear
•    Continuous negative apprehension about events and life situations
•    Restlessness
•    Agitation and fidgeting
•    Insomnia
•    Irritability
•    Difficulty in concentration
•    Mind going blank due to worry and tension

Surveys state that in a given year approximately 6.8 million American adults and 2 percent of European adults suffer from GAD. Not only this, gradually GAD is also spreading its ill-effects in many other parts of the globe. So, it is considered as one of the most prevalent mental health issue of the era. Do you know why and how GAD is caused? Well, there are several reasons for it. Some of them are:

•    Genetic predisposition or family history

•    Neurochemical disturbances in the brain

•    Excessive use of caffeine or dependence on caffeinated drinks

•    Long-term use of psycho-pharmacological drugs (especially benzodiazepines)

•    Situational factors like a job interview, prolonged sadness, stress and tension, etc

If you or someone related to you are experiencing the above mentioned symptoms, then you should immediately seek appropriate treatment. With regular and proper treatment GAD can be managed and rooted out up to a substantial level. Many treatment interventions are available for GAD treatment. Some of them are through use of medications, behavior therapy, commitment therapy, relaxation therapies and so on.

However, one of the best treatment interventions for GAD is Cognitive Behavior Therapy (CBT). CBT treats your mind as well as your behaviour (physiological symptoms included). This is the reason why it is regarded as the most effective form of psychotherapy for CBT. It can be imparted by a Clinical Psychologist or a well-trained CBT Therapist. With the increase in popularity of Information Technology and given to the rush and commitments in everyone’s life…

Best Wishes,


Action against addiction: A success story…

what-is-addictionMany thoughts race in our minds when we hear the word “Addiction”. Some see it as a bad habit, while some see it as a way out of all problems. Whether it’s just addiction per say or whether it’s how one becomes addicted to something, getting rid of addiction is often seen as very difficult thing to do.

In my career as a therapist, I have often seen cases frightened of getting de-addiction problems. Do you know why? They are afraid of the withdrawal symptoms, they are afraid that after getting de-addicted they won’t be able to cope with their life’s problems. In fact, there are many people who got successfully out of their addiction issues. Other than therapy techniques, their own determination and will-power pulled them out of the dark and deadly clutches of their addiction problems. If you are someone who is struggling to get rid of your addiction problem…trust me, it’s possible. This blog post is an epitome of a successful victory in the battle against addiction. This is a true story of an addiction-survivor, the way he fought against his addiction problem and the messages he has given to us that addiction can be reigned over with persistent efforts and targeted intervention.

To maintain confidentiality and respect his dignity I have changed his name. He says:

“Hello everyone, 

I have masturbated on average everyday for the last 13+ years. I have tried to quit unsuccessfully several times. I was able to quite for 1 month on a couple of occasions but I always went back to watching porn and masturbating to cope with stress and anxiety. 

I have been molested as a child on a number of occasions, and obviously these early traumas have pained me deeply and confused me over the years in terms of how I felt about my sexuality especially that I’ve been secretive about them most of my life. 

Also, I went to a all-boy school and had a number of homosexual experiences, but I’m primarily interested in women, which lead me to think of myself as a “male lesbian” sometimes. 

My addiction to porn has worsened over the years that I had to look for novelty because I was bored from “normal” sex. So I developed foot fetish and now I’m struggled with ass fetish, so of course, I feel guilt and shame regarding craving these things and I fear this downward spiral because it can only get worse, so I need to bring more awareness to my situation to transform my suffering………

My first shock came to me when I experience erectile dysfunction that’s when I realized I had a problem. I was masturbating so much that I couldn’t have intercourse. I have had good days, but this problem is still with me to some degree. Also, I sometimes don’t feel comfortable in my body and it’s hard for me to open up sexually and be trusting……

Spirituality and a healthy lifestyle have helped me, too, but again I am still an addict. For some reason, part of me (the addict) is drawn to the dark world of prostitution and pornography because it’s kinky and it expresses my wild side, but it’s also very delusional because it’s all a fantasy. 

I also came to the realization that masturbation is a selfish act especially when overly done. Self-love can be expressed in other ways. 

I am grateful to share this with you all. And I’ve read all of your stories and I feel compassion with everyone here. 

Much love! May we all have happiness and all the causes of all happiness….”

The story of X does not end here. He gave his heart and mind to get rid of his addiction. He tried every way out of it and did not leave any therapeutic technique unattempted. As you have already read in his writing, Spirituality and a well-balanced lifestyle showed him a way out. Apart from these, following are some amazing and effective ways that helped him combat his addiction with greater efficacy:

  1. Healthy lifestyle with good food and regular exercise
  2. Spirituality, meditation
  3. A supportive community
  4. Supplements like Endorphinate, Bach flower remedy, etc
  5. 12-step Buddhist principles combined with psychotherapy
  6. Mindfulness Meditation
  7. Other meditation techniques like TM and Metta
  8. Cognitive Behavior Therapy
  9. Body-centered Psychotherapy

So folks, if you will try and analyze the steps taken by him…you would see that he has used a combination of therapies and strategies. He also had his bad days while getting rid of his addiction, but now he has successfully got rid of it.

I would like to say each one of you who is struggling with addiction…Addiction can be reigned over with a strong will-power, determination, regularity, positivity in every situation ‘n’ symptom, modern day therapy as well as alternative therapeutic measures. If you are afraid of the withdrawal symptoms or other problems that you may face, I would say that these may be your own mirage-thinking. I mean, it could be that you won’t face much trouble in your quest towards addiction.

Like this special person, I have seen many people win the battle against different forms of addiction. What is required is just taking that first strong step. Because unless and until you step out, you won’t know what the world has to offer you. If you are one among them who want to get rid of your addiction problem, then please do not waste a second – just contact us. With the help of our online addiction treatment program you can soon discover a “new you”! You can surely see a sunshine in which you get up one day and your addiction problem is all over.

With Best Wishes,


An introduction to psychotic disorders

Brief-Psychotic-Disorder-PictureBy definition, a psychotic disorder is a chronic mental illness that requires long-term treatment, medication and sometimes hospitalization, in-patient care as well. This blog post will provide you information on different kinds of psychotic illness, their prevalence, signs and symptoms. Therefore, as soon as you identify them or feel them you can seek immediate medical assistance.

1)    Schizophrenia:

Schizophrenia is considered as one of the most severe forms of mental disorders. It requires long-term treatment. Medications as well as Psychotherapy, both are needed for its management and treatment. Its typical onset is around young adulthood and its global prevalence rate is about 0.3-0.7%. See below to find the different symptoms of schizophrenia:

Symptoms Meaning
Delusions Irrational belief about something. E.g: Limbs turning into stones, someone plotting against the person, thought broadcasting
Hallucination Sensing or feeling something without the presence of any apparent stimulus. E.g: Hearing voices, visual distortions
Flat Affect Lack of ability to express feelings and emotions
Physiological Disturbances Disturbances in sleep, appetite and major physiological functions
Avolition Lack of motivation to do something, even daily activities, hygiene etc are also hampered in this disorder

Other symptoms of schizophrenia include poverty of speech, social isolation, impairment in significant cognitive functions, paranoid delusions and so on. It can be caused due to genetic factors, situational factors, environmental factors, neurochemical disturbances in the brain, etc. If you are currently feeling suicidal or are in immediate crisis, please contact your national emergency number or go to Befrienders Worldwide that offers crisis resources worldwide.

2)    Bipolar Disorder:

Bipolar disorder as the name suggests, is a disorder where mood swings between the two poles of depression and mania occur. Here is an illustration of symptoms during each stage:

Phase Symptoms Treatment Methods
Depression Phase Feelings of sadness, melancholy, dejection, social isolation, flat affect, lack of appetite, lack of motivation, insomnia, suicidal feelings, self harm etc. Medication, psychotherapy
Mania Phase Feelings of euphoria, drug and substance abuse, becoming overly extravagant and socially interactive, high energy levels, can harm self and others, high levels of voice, verbal abuse, can resort to anti-social activities,lack of sleep, increased appetite etc. Medication, chronic mania can require hospitalization and intensive in-patient care, psychotherapy

3)    Paranoia:

Paranoia is a delusional disorder. It means it is a disorder characterized by distorted thought process. Under the influence of paranoia you would experience strange irrational belief or delusions. I have mentioned about some common forms of delusions with their meanings below:

Delusion Meaning
Delusion of Grandeur or Grandiosity An irrational thought in which one feels to be a supreme human being or supernatural power. One claims to be a Prime Minister or God, Superman in this form of delusion.
Delusion of Persecution In this form of delusion one thinks as if everyone is trying to kill him or her.
Delusion of Reference This form of delusion suggests that one always thinks that others are talking about him/her.
Thought broadcasting  In this form of delusion they think that their thoughts are being broadcasted in News and information channels.

Paranoia can lead to serious problems like social isolation, fear, self-harm, harming others and even suicide. If you are currently feeling suicidal or are in immediate crisis, please contact your national emergency number or go to Befrienders Worldwide that offers crisis resources worldwide.

4)    Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD):

BPD is a personality disorder characterized by maladaptive personality and behavior in a person. Peolpe with BPD have a lot of trust issues. Due to this they can hardly believe in someone and stick to a relationship. They are more prone to drug and substance abuse too.

These were some of the common psychotic illnesses. The intention of writing this post was not to scare you, but to sensitize you and make you informed about these forms of mental illnesses. Gone are the days when people having mental health problems were subjected to social taboos and discrimination, when they were dumped in mental asylums without proper treatment and care. Today with the progress and advancement in medical science and technology, no matter how chronic or acute a disorder may be, it can be prevented, treated and managed. The best weapons we have so far are medications or psycho-pharmacological interventions, psychotherapeutic treatment, alternative therapies and so on. What is important is identifying them at the earliest and seeking treatment at the earliest.

Therefore, if you get a slight clue about these ailments within you or any of your near ones, do not step back in seeking immediate and proper treatment. There is a way out of every problem!

Best Wishes,


Therapeutic journal writing & its benefits


As a CBT therapist, one of the core therapy inputs I prescribe my clients is the “Journal Writing Method”. Almost all of us do some kind of scribbling, writing, doodling in our daily lives. However, many of you won’t know the right way of journal writing or diary writing. Some write for a passion, some right out of creativity, while some write in order to shed their emotions out.


From a therapeutic point of view, journal writing has many benefits. Some of them are:

  • It acts as a vent for pent-up emotions
  • It initiates clarity of expression
  • It helps in self-recognition, rejuvenation and motivation
  • It improves memory, concentration and eye-hand coordination
  • It helps release negative energies, negative thoughts and maladaptive cognitive processes.

Method of Journal Writing:

If you are someone who likes innovative ways of expressing your emotions, you can maintain a journal that is filled with creative pictures, photos, poems and so on. You can use the pen-paper mode here. However, if you are someone who likes to maintain your privacy…you can opt for the online mode of journal writing.

Write about anything and everything that comes to your mind or creating negative/positive state in your mind. This step acts as a vent to the pent-up emotions or feelings within you and makes your mind lighter.

Write about the most important thing that has been running in your mind throughout the day. It could be a long lost memory, or any situation created in the present day, about a remark by a person. Anything that tends to disturb or excite your mind throughout.

We should try to fix any unresolved issue of the day related to any person or situation. Because if it lingers for a longer time, then we will be literally churned by it time and again. Therefore it is always wise to resolve the issue then and there. If the issue is not resolved or if its next to impossible to resolve then the mental blockage related to it should be taken out of the mind immediately. Thats why while diary entry you need to write down the mental block related to the unresolved issue.

The next stage is to write about your long term and short term plans = things you want to achieve or want to happen. Make strategic plans to achieve you goals , both short and long-term.

Write words of praise for yourself and celebrate even the smallest accomplishment / success of the day.

Journal writing, if done on a regular basis, can have immensely positive effects. No matter how busy you are, how tired you are or how emotionally broken down you are…just take some “me” time for you and jot down some lines. You will see a positive difference.

So folks, keep writing and stay fit.

Best Wishes,


Cognitive Behavior Therapy: Introduction, Methodology and Benefits of CBT

CBT - the basics

Anyone who heads into our website and services comes in terms with a key word; CBT. Though some of you already know about it, however for many this acronym is still a big question mark. This blog post focuses on what CBT is, how it is done and how it benefits one and all.

The full form of the acronym is Cognitive Behavior Therapy. It is one of the most effective psychological therapies available so far. In the generic sense of the term, CBT refers to a psychotherapeutic technique in which a therapist addressed the dysfunctional and maladaptive thought and behavior patterns. Unlike, other forms of psychotherapies, CBT is a wholesome technique that focuses both on the thought processes and the behavior of a person as well. So whenever you or your near and dear ones need psychological help, I would say the best thing to do would be to approach a CBT therapist. If a CBT therapist is not available in your area, then you can go for Online CBT treatment.

CBT is considered to be most beneficial as it works on the soma and psyche of a person. That is, it works both on the body and the mind. It refines maladaptive thought patterns, and motivates you towards fruitful actions.

CBT – Working System/Methodology:

Though CBT modules, therapists, modes may differ there are six common steps or phases in CBT interventions. They are:

  • Psychological assessment: The therapist would do an intensive assessment of your problems/symptoms, so that a correct diagnosis can be made.
  • Reconceptualization: After assessment and diagnosis, the therapist would help you to re-conceptualize your maladaptive, unhealthy or faulty thinking patterns, symptoms, etc.
  • Skills Acquisition: This is the phase where behavioral dimension of your life enters. In this phase the therapist would help you to acquire healthy behavior patterns so that you can deal effectively with your potential problems and symptoms. In this phase many symptoms also fade off.
  • Skills Consolidation and Application Training: After you have acquired all the necessary skills, it is important to put them in a definite framework for you, otherwise everything may just spill off. This phase imparts a definite shape and stability to your newly acquired skills.
  • Maintenance: Once skills are refined, developed and shaped maintaining them is also very necessary. If you won’t keep on practicing the acquired skills then everything you have learned in CBT sessions may just fade off. For long term stable effects of therapies it is very important that everything you learn in the CBT sessions are practiced and persevered.
  • Follow up: Even after your CBT sessions are over, usually your therapist won’t leave you alone. Follow ups are a regular routine to keep you intact and in touch with the therapies, to ensure your well-being and sound health.

Modes of CBT Access:

You can get access to CBT through various modes with the help of a CBT therapist, group therapy, computerized CBT, self-help books, etc. However, the most beneficial CBT mode these days is Computerized CBT or online CBT. Now let us see some benefits of Online CBT:

Benefits of Online CBT:

  • Highly confidential
  • Economic and time-consuming
  • Safeguards your privacy, dignity and integrity
  • You can opt for the computerized version or video version according to your sweet will
  • You can continue the sessions at your own pace
  • No traffic, no moving out your comfortable couch
  • You can save the sessions and use them even after the CBT process ends
  • Therapists are available 24/7 in accordance with your time zone
  • Personalized and customized with regard to your unique, personal needs
  • Follow up system also available

Advantages of CBT over other therapies:

  • All-round therapy system
  • Focus on both physical and psychological aspects of your problems and systems
  • Focus on thought processes as well as behavioral patterns
  • Easy to inculcate in daily life
  • Has enduring effects if practiced regularly
  • The results are evidence-based that you can yourself observe
  • Client-specific i.e based on your specific therapy needs
  • A strong support system
  • Development of healthy thought-behavior patterns
  • Development of a well-defined sense of self and insight
  • Equips you to resist further maladaptive symptoms or behavior
  • Highly beneficial in prevention
  • Economic and time saving
  • Focused treatment
  • Contributes to overall well-being and health

Be it CBT or any other therapy technique you need to remember some crucial things: It is only by regularity in practicing of therapies, creatively using your therapies, clear communication with your therapist, determination, and perseverance you can achieve your therapy expectations and destination of good physical and mental health.

So stay happy, stay healthy.

Best Wishes,


Discover the True Essence of Marriage


Marriage, or a relationship, is built on the backbone of the three pivotal aspects; Mutual TrustMutual Respect and understanding and Mutual Cooperation. If any one of these gets disturbed then the entire spirit and essence of marriage gets disturbed too. These qualities need to be developed and nurtured within every individual who wants his/her marriage to be an eternal journey. Let us see how each of these aspects can be cultivated in a marital relationship:

Mutual trust

If you want to be trusted, learn to trust first. It is as simple as that. In order to build trust in your marriage, you need to be each other’s friends first. A friend with whom you can share even your wildest and weirdest experiences and thoughts without any inhibition. I have seen this rarely present in couples. The greatest mistake they do here is they become judgmental instead of being genuine towards each other. If you become judgmental then obviously your partner may not feel comfortable in sharing his/her thoughts with you. And when inhibitions peep out in marriage, this becomes the first step of breach of trust. Even if we have our own ugly sides, love, affection, understanding and trust can make us beautiful and bright. It’s a matter of giving a chance to your marital relationship before breaking it into pieces.

Tip: When your partner shares something with you, try to see it in a genuine and non-judgmental manner. If you cannot do so, then try to step in your partner’s shoes and see things and situations from his/her perspective. This will foster a better understanding and act as a buffer to nurture the greatest virtue of trust in your marital relationship.

When you feel an urge to breach trust, try to visualize how you would feel if your counterpart or life partner breaks your trust? You would not want that to happen to you, right?

Mutual Respect and understanding

The best way to achieve this is to treat your beloved spouse in the way you want to be respected and understood. All of us have our own imperfection, differences and incompetencies; “A great marriage is not when the ‘perfect couple’ comes together. It is when an imperfect couple learns to enjoy their differences” (Dave Meurer). So if you look at the positive sides and qualities rather than breaking your head on the negative qualities then mutual respect and understanding will shine automatically in your marriage.

Tip: Try to be empathetic towards your partner. Everything that he/she is doing or feeling has a reason. Once you understand the reason it becomes much easier to accept, respect and understand.

Mutual Cooperation

How many of you believe that cooking, taking care of kids, cleaning dishes, washing clothes, moping, dusting, etc are a wife’s duties? While doing outside work, paying bills, fixing leaking taps, etc are the duties of the husband? Frankly speaking if you think like this, then forget about the word mutual cooperation. No work is gender-defined guys. In fact, if my husband does some household chores for me I give him an extra hug that day. 🙂 All of us get churned in our day’s work. And we need someone to help us and support us. So bifurcating between duties and work within a couple will worsen the situations and make life boring, overwhelming and unbearable.

I came across a couple in my Clinic. The husband had a lot of complaints against his wife. He always said that “My wife is lazy, she is always at home and she is a housewife”. I asked him, “What do you do all day? As in, what is your daily routine like?” He said: “ I get up at 8-8:30 in the morning, do my routine activities, get ready for the office, have breakfast, leave for the office, come back in the evening, watch TV, have supper and go to sleep by 10 PM”. Then I asked what does your wife do? He answered: “Oh my wife is a house wife. She gets up at 5 in the morning, finishes her routine work, cleans the house, washes dishes, prepares breakfast for the family, prepares the kids for school, drops them at school and picks them up after school, in between she prepares lunch for the family, washes clothes, irons it, takes care of the kids, helps them in their studies, attends guest, then she prepares supper for all of us, completes the day’s work, makes the kids to sleep and she sleeps by midnight”….After the husband narrated all these, he himself burst into tears! There was nothing for me to do or say. He himself realized about the importance of his wife when he paid close attention to her part of the world.

Tip: Share your work and duties together. That will divide and subtract the labor and time as well as multiply your love and cooperation.

How to make your marriage an everlasting bond of love, affection and belongingness

Remembering and practicing the 3R Technique will help you add magical effect to your marriage. They are:

1)    Recognizing Recognizing and understanding each other’s feelings, thoughts, problems and issues
2)    Reformation Trying to understand one’s own fallacies, misconceptions and trying to rectify it
3)    Reconciliation Solving problems as a team and resolving issues in a non-judgmental, genuine and honest manner

Marriage is one of the strongest bonds on the Earth. A successful marriage is not only a boon for the couple itself, but each and everyone related to it. However, if a marriage becomes unsuccessful for some reason or the other, it destroys everyone related to it or coming in its way. When you feel that your marriage is falling apart, it is high time to reflect back without wasting much time. Reflect on the way you waited for the D-Day, how you felt when you exchanged marriage vows with your spouse, the good times you spent, when and where things started falling apart and how both of you can join hands to enkindle your love and add magic to your marriage yet again.

“When there is love in a marriage, there is harmony in the home; when there is harmony in the home, there is contentment in the community; when there is contentment in the community, there is prosperity in the nation; when there is prosperity in the nation, there is peace in the world.” – Chinese Proverb

Best Wishes,