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Motion Sickness: Its Psychological Perspective

Hi folks! Do you feel nauseated, fatigued or pukish while traveling? If yes, then you might be experiencing kinetosis or motion sickness. It is caused when there is a discrepancy or disagreement in our visually perceived movement and our sense of balance or vestibular sense.

Some of the important symptoms of motion sickness are:

Symptoms of Motion Sickness

  • Nausea
  • Restlessness
  • Feelings of worry and tension
  • Fatigue
  • Dizziness
  • Weakness and head reeling

Motion sickness sometimes gets so disturbing that it makes some to stay indoors and not prefer much traveling. It gets aggravated when one is traveling in hilly areas, during summer times and stomach ailments. Depending on the causal aspect of the motion, Kinetosis is also referred to as car sickness, seasickness, airsickness, or simulation sickness. Now let us see some of the causes of motion sickness:

CAUSES OF MOTION SICKNESS

The causes of motion sickness are classified into three broad categories. They are:

  • Motion sickness that is caused when motion is felt but not seen
  • Motion sickness that is caused when motion is seen but not felt
  • When the motion stimulus is felt both by your vestibular and visual systems, but they do not correspond to each other.

Confused??? Let me explain each one of the causes by giving some examples:

Causes Examples
Motion sickness that is caused when motion is felt but not seen Car sickness, airsickness, etc. We see the interior portions of the cars and airplanes as being static. But, when we see outside the roads, trees and the other shapes seem to be moving. So this causes a discrepancy in what we are watching and feeling, thus motion sickness is caused.
Motion sickness that is caused when motion is seen but not felt Video or simulation sickness. When we play games on the simulators, video games or when you watch videos on larger screens (movie halls), the animation of fast objects, flying objects, larger objects, etc tend to cause motion sickness. Here you are just seeing something and feeling sick.
When the motion stimulus is felt both by your vestibular and visual systems, but they do not correspond to each other. While driving in badly maintained roads. This causes a discrepancy between what we are seeing and feeling. O one hand, we would be seeing the vehicle and outside objects move slowly, but our balance/vestibular sense would be sensing severe jerks and movements that are irregular due to the bad roads.

So, now the question is – Is motion sickness related to our psyche in some form? The answer is “YES”!!! Motion sickness that psychological connection too. An interesting and important part of the brain, the area postrema is responsible for causing vomiting when it detects poison It also resolves the conflicts between vision and balance. When you feel or experience something while in motion, if you cannot see the moving objects but still feel the motion… Then your inner ear/vestibule sense signals the ear that it is sensing motion. But, your eyes on the other hand signal that everything is still (since you cannot see the outside objects moving – in case of a ship with no windows, or in case you are seeing the inside of a car and not out of the window). This results your brain to sense that you are hallucinating and moreover, the hallucination is caused due to poisoning. Therefore, to flush out the toxins of your body, as part of the defense mechanism your brain signals your reflux system to throw up. And this ends up in “motion sickness”.

Hope you got the whole idea now. Motion sickness may seem silly at first, but for some it is really frustrating and disturbing. To know about some useful psychological and alternative techniques to deal with motion sickness, check out my next blog coming up shortly!

Fostering Fidelity in Marriage

I, ____, take you, ____, to be my lawfully wedded(husband/wife), to have and to hold, from this day forward, for better, for worse, for richer, for poorer, in sickness and in health, until death do us part.

For better, for worse; in sickness and sadness; in sun and shower of life… Each and every wedded couple takes these promises in some or the other form. Promise to hold each other’s hands beyond eternity, promise to be together no matter what… Marriage is a special bond that unites two people in a strong, ever-lasting bond. But, what happens that marriages do not last for a lifetime? Why do couples stop trusting themselves and seek pleasure outside marriage? Where does the fidelity quotient fade off? Well, if you are also thinking about these questions or are going through a similar phase then this blog is meant for you.

Trust and fidelity are the pillars of an unbreakable marriage. If you and your spouse are trustworthy, then your marital relationship blooms like anything. Once trust and fidelity fits in a marital relationship, then all other forms of marital companionship like love, affection, care, protection, respect and understanding… Everything falls into the perfect picture automatically. Therefore, trust and fidelity have magical effects to make your marriage shine and smile.

However, there are a lot of instances around us in which we see married couples falling apart due to infidelity and breach of trust. This not only affects the married partners but also negatively influences their family, significant others and people related to them either directly or negatively. So, what hampers or affects fidelity in marriage? Let us look at some of the important causes:

Causes of Infidelity in Marriage

  • Lack of mutual trust, mutual understanding and mutual respect
  • Extramarital Affairs
  • Inability to cope with mutual differences in opinion, thoughts, mind-sets and personalities
  • Lack of spending quality time with each other
  • Inability to perform one’s own marital roles and responsibilities
  • Breaking of expectations couples have attached to one another
  • Over-protective nature and over-possessive nature that leaves no space for the spouse to live life with freedom.
  • Conflicts and misunderstandings
  • Effects of stress, tensions and day to day hazels
  • Third-person influence

Like I said earlier, infidelity and breach of trust in a marital relationship leads to unfathomable pain and disturbance in the lives of the married couple and people related to him. This also leads to many physical and psychological imbalances in the form of:

  • Restlessness and physical discomfort
  • Changes in diet and sleep patterns
  • Lack of personal care and hygiene
  • Stress and tension
  • Worries, apprehension and anxiety
  • Depression
  • Social withdrawal or isolation
  • Can lead to drug or alcohol abuse
  • Obsessive thinking and concerned behaviors
  • Suicidal thoughts

That was just a brief overview of what infidelity can do to you, your spouse or your marriage as a whole. It affects all the dimensions of life in a negative way. Therefore, it is very important to foster fidelity in your marital relationship. Here are some of the important ways of doing so:

Ways of Fostering Fidelity in Marriage

  • Mutual understanding: The more you understand your spouse; you will be able to nurture loyalty in your marriage in a better way. Majority of marriages break due to lack of understanding between couples. So, don’t let that happen in your life too. Mutual understanding is the basic and the most significant aspect of making a marriage bloom with trust and fidelity.
  • Mutual Sharing: If you want to share your emotions, expectations, thoughts and viewpoints with your partner… Then please do it! Do not hide your emotions and expect your partner to understand your part of the world. Mutual sharing bridges the gap between both your hearts and minds. Moreover, it is the direct key to enkindle loyalty in your marital relationship.
  • Mutual Respect: No one is perfect folks! In fact, we all strive and thrive towards perfection. Just as you have your own weaknesses and strengths, your spouse would be having the same too. Therefore, respecting each other’s differences is yet another way of working towards increasing fidelity quotient in your marriage.
  • Be a friend first and then a spouse: If you are someone who likes to dominate or be bossy towards your spouse, then it may hamper your marital relationship and will push your beloved away from you. Try to be your partner’s best friend first and then the whole spirit of spouse-hood will flow in automatically. Each one of us needs someone with whom we can feel most comfortable, protected and accepted; rather than being judged and humiliated!
  • Spend “quality” time together: No matter how much time you spend with your better-half, try to spend it meaningfully. In this fast-paced world we hardly find time for our spouse. Sometimes, we also take them for granted. But, this is not fair folks! The one who is married to you needs your quality time too. Even if you have 10 minutes together, spend it meaningfully with love, care, trust, enthusiasm and mutual understanding.
  • Rejoice and rejuvenate: When certain time lapses in a marriage, it tends to get mundane for some couples. This is the biggest reason for infidelity in marriages. Instead of seeking that spark and pleasure outside, try to create the same magic within your marriage. Spend time together, go for a holiday together, send surprise gifts… In short, rejoice and rejuvenate your own marital relationship so that there would be no space for any other third-person’s entry.
  • Do not cheat: If you are falling for someone else outside of your marriage, and if you are getting the feeling that your marriage is not working out, then it is best to share with someone you trust and take professional help of counselor/psychologist too.

Marriage is a pure bond between you and your beloved spouse. Life will always be challenging in a marital relationship. So, marriage is all about stepping on the challenges by holding each other’s hands and crossing over every difficulty with trust, hope, love and belongingness.

With this, I would like to share some wonderful and inspiring lines by Robert Sexton. Starting from being in love with your spouse to nurturing your marital life with trust, hope, positivity, loyalty and understanding… These lines will really motivate you to make your marriage an ideal and a blissful one:

“There is no moment of my life when you are not a part of me; you hold my heart; you guard my soul; you guide my dreams so tenderly. And if my will might be done, and all I long for could come true, with perfect joy I would choose to share eternity with you.” – Robert Sexton

Lots of love dust on you and your spouse!

Stress and Anxiety in Children

Children are the purest form of innocence, truth, beauty… and one of the best creations on the Earth. Without children our lives would have been colorless and lifeless. Childhood is the most fascinating phases of human life. Starting from the babbling of a baby to the happy chuckles of a toddler; children make the world more bright and bountiful.

However, in the weary dreary world of today, your tiny tots are becoming the innocent victims of the rat race of competition, zooming fast-paced lifestyle, demands of successful living and the changing societal norms. The way children are oscillating between a competitive world and the environment encircling them, is making them fall prey to many physical and psychological ailments. Among them, the most common problems are Childhood Stress and Anxiety. The lifetime prevalence rate of Childhood Anxiety is about 25.1%. The number is still increasing at an alarming rate. Owing to this, I would be discussing about the technical know-how of childhood stress and anxiety so that you can save your child from the clutches of these problems and suffering.

Causes of Childhood Stress and Anxiety

  • Genetic effects
  • Environmental factors
  • Competition and thriving towards achievement
  • Parental expectations
  • Parental conflicts
  • Peer pressure, and pressure from academic staff
  • Hormonal changes, life transition and lifestyle patterns
  • Need for self-development, self-concept, self-esteem and striving to come at par with the norms and roles of the society.

Problems caused due to Stress and Anxiety in Children

  • Poor performance in academic activities
  • Social withdrawal and need to stay isolated
  • Physical discomfort in the form of palpitations, sweating, frequent urination, trembling, speech anxiety,nightmares,  bed-wetting, panic attacks, disturbed sleep, diet changes, etc.
  • Lack of concentration and focus, problems in memory and complex cognitive skills like decision-making, etc.
  • Depression and suicidal ideations/attempts
  • Lack of self-esteem and confidence
  • Lack of emotional bonding with parents, relatives or care-givers or children may become more panicky and clingy on the flip side.

Children are like sponge soaked in water. They are very sensitive towards their surroundings and easily soak what is said or done to them. That is why, it is very necessary to bring up your children in the most delicate yet effective manner so that they don’t fall prey to the childhood psychological ailments. They have their entire future in front of them. So let us all build our children’s lives in such a way that they can reap a beautiful and meaningful future ahead.

If you want to know more about positive parenting and how to build your child’s life so that your lil’ champ leads a happy, healthy and fulfilling life… then check out my next blog folks!!!

Best wishes,

Sareeta

Live Life Meaningfully

This life is just for once… None of us know what is before or beyond it. So, that we have in our hands is this life, the present time or the present moment. I know that you have your own commitments, work pressures, duties and responsibilities to take care of. I know that you have your own dreams and aspirations too. However, have you thought that ultimately what would be the significance and implication of all this, of all your deeds and endeavors? Whatever you are doing, is it sensible and worth? And in the muddle of the stressors and pressures of life… Is there still meaning and purity alive?

Each and every deed of yours defines you; it speaks volumes of the hard work and sincerity that you have. It reflects your goodness and magnanimity of your heart and soul. There is no doubt in it. However, at times you may be shaken off balance or off your track due to the negative forces of sadness, dejections, failures and frustrations, malice and wrong thoughts, illness and agitations. When this happens, it is very difficult to breathe life into life again. It becomes a Herculean task to guide life into the positive track again.

I came across some wonderful life-changing lines whiles reading. Those lines show us the true meaning of life, how it should be lived and what should be our endeavors to build a beautiful world for ourselves and others. So here it goes:

Promise Yourself

To be so strong that nothing

can disturb your peace of mind.

To talk health, happiness, and prosperity

to every person you meet.

To make all your friends feel

that there is something in them

To look at the sunny side of everything

and make your optimism come true.

To think only the best, to work only for the best,

and to expect only the best.

To be just as enthusiastic about the success of others

as you are about your own.

To forget the mistakes of the past

and press on to the greater achievements of the future.

To wear a cheerful countenance at all times

and give every living creature you meet a smile.

To give so much time to the improvement of yourself

that you have no time to criticize others.

To be too large for worry, too noble for anger, too strong for fear,

and too happy to permit the presence of trouble.

To think well of yourself and to proclaim this fact to the world,

not in loud words but great deeds.

To live in faith that the whole world is on your side

so long as you are true to the best that is in you.”

– Christian D. Larson, Your Forces and How to Use Them

Hope you liked the above lines friends! Life is an unknown journey in which we live mindfully and acquire milestones after milestones. We put maximum efforts to maximize our happiness and minimize pains. Sometimes, we are successful in it while at times we fail too. So, when you feel like you are losing the battle of life, do not give up! There is still hope. Remember the words above and keep the Promise.

Live life meaningfully and happily!!!

It’s Psycho-Quiz time: Test your Psycho-knowledge Skills

Hi folks! It’s time to test, rejuvenate and revive your psycho-knowledge skills. The more you know about psychology in everyday life, the more you know about mental health and the knowledge related to it… You can stay healthy, happy and deal with the stressors and pressures of life with greater efficacy. Our mental world, brain and its chemistry, body organs, thoughts, feelings and behaviors are all unique in themselves, aren’t they?

Interestingly, each and every bodily and mental function control and influence our practical and daily living to a significant extent. Not only in dealing with the curve-balls of life, but also in taking preventive and curative measures, etc… Knowing about our own body-brain mechanisms helps us in our all-round development too.

So here I present a crossword puzzle to you with questions. The questions are mentioned below and after that the answers are hidden in the crossword puzzle. Let us see how you do it and score!!!

Puzzle Questions:

  • One of the brain’s important function that helps in the process, storage and retrieval of information
  • Right handed persons are called
  • Persons with left hand dominance are known as
  • Who is the father of Psychology
  • Irrational, extreme fear of something is known as
  • If you are feeling very sad, dejected, hopeless, helpless, melancholic… you are probably suffering from
  • Which gas makes you laugh beyond control? Hint: It is also known as “laughing gas”
  • The functional part of the human brain
  • An important neurotransmitter or brain chemical
  • Your short term or working memory can hold… Bits of information
N I T R O U S O X I D E
W B X F I Z O P A R H O
G U V K S M W J P K Y S
A U N Q G B T S H O M I
B A N D O D U C O Q Y N
A N P T T D F O B V P E
N M A Y G O P M I N D S
Q E W D E X T R A L S T
R O V T N K J E W X O R
A F X E G U B V L E S A
I N O I S S E R P E D L
M E M O R Y N G B P Y S

So folks! Hope you did the puzzle correctly. The more you score the right answers, the more your “psycho-knowledge” is. So give in your best shot and try out your best. Do share with us how many correct answers you got. The correct answers will be posted tomorrow.

If you have any queries regarding the questions and their answers, if you want to know more about the concepts then please feel free to write to us. If you are going through a difficult phase of your life, then also please feel free to write to us. Together, we can find a way to deal with your potential problems. We would be happy to assist you in any and every way we can.

Good Luck and Happy Quiz-Solving Time!!!

Be Happy by Sharing and Caring

If you have a candle, the light won’t glow any dimmer if I light yours off of mine.” – Steven Tyler

Happiness… How do you relate to this word? What does it mean to you and what gives you happiness? Happiness is a broader term and its connotation differs from one to another. For some of you happiness would be in making yourself happy, while for others it’s in making others feel good. Sometimes success, contentment, peace, gains, etc define happiness. While, at other times happiness is experienced through higher philosophies of life. The major question is why do we need happiness in life? Have you asked this question to yourself? An interesting question to ponder over, isn’t it? Try to think about it at least once. I am sure you will definitely come up with answers that will be a life-changing moment for you!

Happiness is a significant motivating factor to help us survive in this world, to inspire us towards worthwhile actions and to propel us towards the higher and deeper meaning of life. There are manifold ways to attain happiness in life. Some ways are based on the microcosmic worldly aspects, while some are based on the aspects that drift us to higher realms of understanding, empathy, love, faith, hope and so on. Amongst these various en routes to happiness… Sharing and caring are also great ways to attain happiness. Have you experienced how it feels after you have helped a needy, fed a hungry person or taken care of the ailing? It makes you feel very peaceful, contended and blissful, right? Sharing and caring are high virtues and values that not only make you feel good but also help your fellow-beings in the process too. How can you inculcate sharing and caring in your daily life or practical life is the major question here. Let us look into different ways through which we can share, through which we can care, attain and spread happiness in the progression:

Happiness is not something ready made. It comes from your own actions. – Dalai Lama XIV

Know yourself:

The more you know yourself, the more you can know what you are – what you have – what you can offer to the world at large. Knowing yourself is an art. It gives you an insight about your strengths and weaknesses, values and virtues, and so on. It also shows you a definite direction in life. Spending time with yourself, meditation and reflective thinking will help you a lot in the process of knowing yourself.

Be empathetic and understanding towards yourself and others:

There is a thin line between sympathy and empathy. Sympathy is something that you show to others. But, empathy is literally feeling what others are feeling. So in order to foster a sharing and caring nature you need to be understanding and empathetic towards yourself first. Then these will automatically reflect onto others.

Reach out to help the needy:

Someone somewhere in some part of the world is leading life amid great difficulties, hunger, poverty, etc. He/she must be struggling hard to make a living, someone might be emotionally hurt and might be looking for a shoulder to lean on… Life is never fair always. It is a blend of sun and shade. If you look around yourself you will find many people either silently or yelling out or a helping hand from you. Doing even a small thing to help others will take you a long way in expressing your care and concern. This will give you a lot of happiness in return.

Serve the ailing:

Nursing a sick person, taking care of the sick is yet another sterling way of attaining internal happiness and at the same time sharing ‘n’ caring. You need not be a medical professional or a doctor for it. Just by giving someone a “get well soon” card or by sitting beside him/her will enkindle a bright flame of health, well-being and happiness beyond compare.

Charity begins at home:

´Sometimes we become mere bystanders in different situations. It is not that we cannot do something it’s just that we cannot grab up all the resources and courage to do something. We expect others to be taking a stand and doing it. So folks, come on… Let’s try to inculcate strength within ourselves and take a stand wherever we are needed.

Love unconditionally and learn to forgive-forget:

Sharing, caring and ultimate happiness comes through the pearls of love, forgetting and forgiving too. It is sometimes difficult to get over things and bitter memories. It is even more difficult to forgive someone who has given you immense pain. But, it is silently killing you from within. The more negative things you think or feel the more harm you would be doing to yourself. So, no matter how difficult it is to forgive and forget, just give it a try at least. You will be the one who will be the happiest person on the Earth after doing it.

Meaningful social and community services:

We often celebrate and party with our family, friends and acquaintances. This is really a great way of spreading and sharing happiness around. However, sometimes you can make it more meaningful through a vision or ideal – oriented gathering. For example: Meeting or assembling together and planning to help someone or a community that needs you. Orphans, the elderly, the sick and ailing, the poor and needy… There are manifold ways in which you can create sunshine of positivity and prosperity through community service.

Praise and celebrate:

Hmmm… if you have done at least one of the above things that I have said above, if you have done something to share or care in some or the other form, then its time to praise yourself and celebrate guys!!!!

Your biggest strengths and values are your potentialities to share and care; to attain and radiate happiness. If you are already doing it or already thinking of doing it, then you are indeed one of the best creations on Earth.

This life is for loving, sharing, learning, smiling, caring, forgiving, laughing, hugging, helping, dancing, wondering, healing, and even more loving. I choose to live life this way. I want to live my life in such a way that when I get out of bed in the morning, the devil says, ‘aw shit, he’s up! – Steve Maraboli, Unapologetically You: Reflections on Life and the Human Experience

Healthy Habits to Manage Weight

No one wants to look plumpy or too skinny, right? We all want to look just fab!!! The word that is trending today is “healthy look”. But, how does one manage to stay healthy and look perfect? I think this question must have puzzled your mind too. Weight management is an art. If you have a balanced weight then you radiate a good personality inside out. Starting from your individuality to your thought processes… everything dazzles positivity and uniqueness. So how much weight is healthy and one should have? Let me quickly show you the height-weight ratio of men and women: Ideal Height to Weight Proportion

So, the chart mentioned above is an epitome of an ideal BMI with regard to your height and weight. The full form of the acronym BMI is Body Mass Index. BMI is the measure of body fat with respect to the height of an adult male and female. The quantitative aspect of our BMI is very important, as it is the reflection of the qualitative aspect of your health. The closer you are to the appropriate BMI, the healthier you are.

Unfortunately, today’s sedentary and unhealthy lifestyle, detrimental food habits, and other health risks tend to throw you off the ideal weight mark. This leads to many unwanted and potential health risks, illnesses, eating disorders, insomnia, other psychological issues like depression, personality disorders and so on. Apart from these, an unhealthy weight also tends to affect your personal and social life as a whole.

Therefore, it is very important to keep one’s weight in the correct proportion in order to lead a healthy, happy and fulfilling life. The art of weight management can seem gruesome to you at the superficial level. However, with the help of some wise and easy lifestyle changes you can achieve a proportionate weight and a healthy “you”. Here are some of the lifestyle changes that would help you to manage your weight or attain a healthy BMI:

1)    Do not starve yourself: The first thing that may strike your mind while thinking of weight management is probably “dieting”. But, please don’t do that. Dieting without mindful eating may end in making you even more flabby or skinny. The rule of the thumb is not to starve you but to fill your platter and tummy with a balanced diet. Your dish should be enriched with a perfect blend of vital nutrients comprising of vitamins, minerals, carbohydrates, fats as well as liquids.

2)    Do not skip your breakfast: Hope you have heard the saying, “eat your breakfast like a king and your dinner like a pauper”. Yes, folks! Breakfast is the most important meal of the day as it provides fuel for your body and brain for the entire day. It tends to rejuvenate and energize your body and brain after getting up from slumber and rest. Therefore, no matter how busy you are, try not to skip your breakfast at any cost.

3)    Drink water, but at the right time: Most of us have a bad habit of drinking water between meals or just after/before meals. If you are following the same regime, then please try to change it as soon as possible. Try drinking water either half an hour before or after food. Drink water immediately before or after food makes your digestion process slow, sluggish and unhealthy. This also retards the production of digestive enzymes. As a result, it leads to unwanted accumulation of fats and problems in the breaking down of food nutrients. So, drink water… but at the right time!

4)    Drink water, only in a sitting position: This is also one of the most significant aspects I want to tell you. If you have a habit of drinking water while standing, then unknowingly you are opening the door to innumerable ailments. Starting from throat problems to heart problems, drinking water while standing has the potential to cause many health risks and problems. So, whenever you want to drink water or juice or any fluid, try to drink the same by sitting down. The world won’t end if you spare some time for yourself and drink the stuff slowly and steadily!

5)    Right is not right, left is right: Confused??? Ok, let me explain. While going to sleep, just try to analyze whether you sleep to your left side, or right side? Even if you sleep on your front or back or to your right… this should be changed. Try sleeping to your left side first for a couple of minutes and then you can change your sleeping position according to your own wish. Sleeping to the left side accelerates a healthy digestion process and exerts less pressure on your heart as well as all the vital organs of your body.

6)    Walk more, breathe deep: Rather than driving your car or vehicle to a nearby destination, how about walking to it? The more your body works out naturally, the more you breathe deeply…the healthy you will be.

7)    Cut alcohol and caffeine intake: Sometimes this stuff cannot be avoided but these stuff lead to accumulation of fats, toxins and pose potential health risks like tumors, cancer, etc. So, try to avoid your alcohol and caffeine intake as much as you can.

8)    See a Dietician or a Nutrition Specialist: If you want to know the exact proportion of food, BMI, nutritional composition of various foods, effects of food on your body and brain…then one of the best solutions is to seek the advice of a dietician or a nutritional specialist. Once you have the knowledge related to these aspects, weight management becomes a lot more easy and worthwhile.

The art of weight management is hardly a secret or a Herculean task now. It is with your own determination, knowledge, interest and motivation you can surely achieve an ideal weight and health as a whole.

Best wishes,

Sareeta

The Healing Power of Flowers

Healing Flower LoniceraThe earth laughs in flowers.” – Ralph Waldo Emerson

Fragrance and beauty of flowers tend to captivate everyone’s heart and soul. Whether you gift it to your beloved, tie it in your hairs, gift someone lying ill, decorate your home with them, or use as a medium of offering your heart’s cherished prayers… Flowers tend to be the most wonderful expression of human feelings and emotions. Have you experienced the touch and aroma of flowers on green patches of land? Or have you seen how a flower blooms and blossoms out of a thick rock? Flowers are not simply sensitive entities, but they also reflect many important lessons of life. Beauty, purity, determination, joy n peace… Flowers teach us many aspects of positive life living.

Do you know, flowers have healing properties too? Yes! Flowers have the power to heal. Since time immemorial flowers have been used for restoring physical and mental health. Starting from cold, flu, infections to stress, depression and other ailments… Flowers have been one of the best therapy agents. Let us have a look of the different kinds of flowers that heal:

1)   Lonicera Flower: This flower has anti-viral properties. It is useful in colds, flu, infections and so on. It is also known as Jin Yin Hua. Lonicera is widely used in Asian cultures and is often the first preference to fight against cold and related infections.

2)   Viola Flower: Viola is a beautiful flower with multi-dimensional therapeutic properties. It is also known as “purple flower earth herb”. Viola flower helps fight against swelling and toxicity. Therefore, it is considered as an anti-inflammatory and antipyretic. It helps fight against bacterial infections too.

3)   Passion Flower: It is also known as Passiflora Incarnata. Passion flower is most commonly found in the Southern United States. The flower itself and its leaves are immensely helpful in pacifying anxiety and sleep problems.

4)   Lavender: Lavender is used as an essential oil, as a healing agent and is a significant part and parcel of aroma therapy as well. It has multiple therapeutic effects on mental health. Lavender helps in restoring sleep, it also helps in pacifying anxiety, anger issues, stress management and it enhances overall sense of health and well-being.

5)   St. John’s Wort: I think you must have heard about this before. St. John’s Wort is the beloved healing agent of many health practitioners. It has healing effects both on the body and the mind as well. It is used to treat physical ailments like varicose veins, wounds, bruises, sciatica and other nerve related ailments. It is also greatly useful in mild to moderate depression, mood swings and negative thinking processes.

Do you know how many flowering plants are there on our planet? According to botanists, there are around 240,000 flowering plants on the Earth. Apart from the beauty of their being, their spirit-uplifting fragrance and mesmerizing entity… Flowers have the priceless affluence of compounds and healing properties that help in the restoration of physical and mental health. If you have any queries regarding flowers and their healing properties, if you are experiencing any suffering, pain, illness or ailment, then please feel free to contact us. We will help you in any and every way we can. Your precious comments and suggestions are always welcome!

What a desolate place would be a world without a flower! It would be a face without a smile, a feast without a welcome. Are not flowers the stars of the earth, and are not our stars the flowers of the heaven.” – A.J. Balfour

Best wishes,

Sareeta

Body Language: Says Everything Known and Unknown

Body LanguageBody language is a very powerful tool. We had body language before we had speech, and apparently, 80% of what you understand in a conversation is read through the body, not the words.” – Deborah Bull

Body language, as the name suggests is the way through which you tend to non-verbally communicate. Even if you do not speak out your thoughts and feelings, your body language says it all. The way you walk, the way you talk, the way you carry your body, your dressing sense, gestures and postures… Each and every bodily nuance of yours speak volumes about your thought processes, behavioral styles, personality features, and so on. So your body language is a very important part of your daily life living. Be it an interview or a party, whether it is a formal meeting or an informal gathering, if your body language is not right then it may lead to wrong implication, connotation and comprehension by others. Therefore, body language plays a significant role in your personal life, relationships, professional life, inter-personal communication and your social life as a whole.

Now let us see some of the common body languages and what do they mean:

Open Body Language

This reflects the openness body posture. It epitomizes confidence, a well-defined self-esteem, overt or extrovert personality, leadership qualities, and a positive personality style.

Defensive Body Language

Opposite of the openness mental state is the defensive mental state. This posture reflects defensiveness, falsity and introversion. People using this body posture are not usually comfortable with their body image. They have a low level of self-esteem and self confidence. They are prone to getting affected with the stressors and pressures of life and can get easily frustrated.

Body Language - Doubt

Have you seen anybody using the above gestures? It means that he or she is probably lying or has doubts regarding the correctness and validity of the subject matter being discussed.

Leader Listener Follower

The three positions above reflect the leader, the listener and the follower. The first picture depicts leadership, confidence and outgoing nature. It would be difficult to convince a person using this form of body language. The second position is listening position. People using this body language are good listeners and are very adaptive. They have good coping skills and can adjust themselves in any situation. The final picture depicts a personality that is low is self-confidence. People using this posture are often stressed out of their lives; they lack motion and motivation and can easily be used by others or taken advantage of. In short, they are very gullible.

Feet Signalling

People who are attracted towards each other tend to point their foot towards the person they like or are attracted to. This picture is a vivid example of the same.

Following is an illustration of the different body outlets that reflect your personality, cognition, conation and affect:

Non Verbal Body LanguageBody language is the most primitive and significant form of human communication. It came into existence even before our ancestors developed speech and language. Use of correct body language is a boon in all the dimensions of your life. Research studies suggest that your body is the reflection of your mind and the way you control your body, it will have an impact on your mental processes too. It is a mutual process. Therefore, daily practice of effective and positive body language techniques will aid you in personality development, refined cognitive skills, positive life and sound health. If you want to learn more about body language then please write a comment below!

Best Wishes,

Sareeta

The Process of Psychological Liberation

Mental Health: Key to a balanced and happy lifeFreedom is never given; it is won.” – A. Philip Randolph

Shackles of the past, chains of negative feelings, bars of reactivity and prison of bitter memories, regrets ‘n’ pains… Psychological bondages tend to create a lot of turmoil in our lives. These scars or wounds not only take a toll on us physically, but also create a lot of havoc in our psychological world as well.

When you are engulfed in the dark smoke of past bitter memories, emotional bleeding of twinges and unfathomable grief; your life comes to a halt. Your ability to forget and forgive becomes crumpled; you become unable to move forward in life and all the dimensions of your life (physical, psychological, emotional, familial, social, and professional, etc.)… Everything seems to get stuck at a dead end. Therefore folks, in order to lead a happy and well-balanced life you need to be psychologically liberated or free from the negative aspects that are bothering you. Many factors lead to psychological bondages. These bondages culminate in pain and suffering. Some of the common factors are:

Factors and life events leading to Psychological Bondages

  • Loss or death of a loved one
  • Break up in a relationship or marital discord
  • When afflicted by pain by someone you trust or love
  • Stress, anxiety, inability to cope in life’s situations and apprehensions
  • Loss of job, bullying or becoming a drop-out
  • Inability to forgive someone
  • Inability to get over the past negative and painful experiences
  • History of abuse, assaults and violence
  • Stringent relationships with family, peers, relatives and/or significant others
  • Prolonged ill-treatment by others
  • Failure and frustration; depressive feelings
  • Other triggers like environmental issues, alcohol or substance abuse, etc.
  • Social behaviors, social values, customs and norms
  • At times through observational learning

On this note, I would like to share some of the wonderful words of wisdom on psychological liberation by Andrew Cohen (March 29, 2010). He opines that:

In the way that I teach, the key to our liberation is simple and direct: it occurs when we discover and recognize something that is more important. When you awaken to something that has infinitely greater spiritual, moral, and philosophical value than your personal problems, when you discover a higher perspective that is inherently more meaningful than the woes of your wounded self, those problems and woes won’t necessarily disappear, but they suddenly appear to be dramatically less important. Now, in a deep and profound and significant way, you are just not as interested in that personal world any more. And that’s how you find liberation.

With the help of some amazing daily-life changes and techniques you can attain psychological liberation from your pains and sufferings. Here are some of the important ways that would help you in the process:

Accept and do not avoid

First of all you need to accept the negative situation and the truth that it has happened. The more you tend to run away from it or avoid it, the more it will run behind you and clutch you hard. In order to be free, you need to understand the boundation and its implication first.

Do not assume or apprehend

Assumptions and apprehensions are like the mental thought clouds that normally do not turn out to be true. Psychological liberation is possible when you have a crystal clear mind with an unflinching determination to deal with a given situation in the most effective manner.

Meditate and exercise

To fuel yourself up for the liberation process you need to recharge yourself with exercise and meditation. Physical work-out plus mental relaxation and meditation will help you remain strong, rejuvenated and focused on your motives.

Good lifestyle

Apart from meditation and exercise equally important is a well-balanced lifestyle. Hope you have heard the saying “Mens sana in a corpore sano”. It means, “a healthy mind resides in a healthy body”. This is possible only if you have a good lifestyle. Remaining sad and sick will thrust you off-balance and will make the liberation process even more difficult and gruesome. The more you are physically fit, more will be the ease with which you can resolve and liberate yourself from the emotional turmoil.

Do not indulge into the blame-game

We often tend to project the reason or trigger of our problems on others. This is quite normal. However, if we ourselves take the responsibility of our actions or try to understand the pros and cons of the emotional/situational turbulence… Then we can flip back to normal functioning a lot easily.

Forgive and let yourself free

I know it is a very difficult thing to do. How can you forgive someone who has inflicted you immense pain? It is a very difficult thing to do. But, folks if you can really achieve this or forgive someone or yourself…liberation will come to you faster. You will be the happiest person around. The more you hang on to the negative things, people or situations, the more you will hurt yourself. I guess you also won’t want this to happen. Try the art of forgiving and see its magic.

Learn the lessons

If we see the past or negative circumstances as lessons to learn from, then psychological liberation will automatically sweep in. We will get to know about the higher perspective of the entire scenario. Each and every situation that takes place in your life has its own meaning and significance. It either gives you something or snatches something from you and makes you even stronger. View life as a book and the experiences as the chapters or lessons in it.

Talk and express

If you seem to get stuck in the emotional turmoil and potential problems of your life, if you think that you cannot move forward any more, then talking to someone you trust or taking professional help also helps a lot. This will give you a direction and a definite flow.

Best wishes,

Sareeta