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Stress and Anxiety in Children

Children are the purest form of innocence, truth, beauty… and one of the best creations on the Earth. Without children our lives would have been colorless and lifeless. Childhood is the most fascinating phases of human life. Starting from the babbling of a baby to the happy chuckles of a toddler; children make the world more bright and bountiful.

However, in the weary dreary world of today, your tiny tots are becoming the innocent victims of the rat race of competition, zooming fast-paced lifestyle, demands of successful living and the changing societal norms. The way children are oscillating between a competitive world and the environment encircling them, is making them fall prey to many physical and psychological ailments. Among them, the most common problems are Childhood Stress and Anxiety. The lifetime prevalence rate of Childhood Anxiety is about 25.1%. The number is still increasing at an alarming rate. Owing to this, I would be discussing about the technical know-how of childhood stress and anxiety so that you can save your child from the clutches of these problems and suffering.

Causes of Childhood Stress and Anxiety

  • Genetic effects
  • Environmental factors
  • Competition and thriving towards achievement
  • Parental expectations
  • Parental conflicts
  • Peer pressure, and pressure from academic staff
  • Hormonal changes, life transition and lifestyle patterns
  • Need for self-development, self-concept, self-esteem and striving to come at par with the norms and roles of the society.

Problems caused due to Stress and Anxiety in Children

  • Poor performance in academic activities
  • Social withdrawal and need to stay isolated
  • Physical discomfort in the form of palpitations, sweating, frequent urination, trembling, speech anxiety,nightmares,  bed-wetting, panic attacks, disturbed sleep, diet changes, etc.
  • Lack of concentration and focus, problems in memory and complex cognitive skills like decision-making, etc.
  • Depression and suicidal ideations/attempts
  • Lack of self-esteem and confidence
  • Lack of emotional bonding with parents, relatives or care-givers or children may become more panicky and clingy on the flip side.

Children are like sponge soaked in water. They are very sensitive towards their surroundings and easily soak what is said or done to them. That is why, it is very necessary to bring up your children in the most delicate yet effective manner so that they don’t fall prey to the childhood psychological ailments. They have their entire future in front of them. So let us all build our children’s lives in such a way that they can reap a beautiful and meaningful future ahead.

If you want to know more about positive parenting and how to build your child’s life so that your lil’ champ leads a happy, healthy and fulfilling life… then check out my next blog folks!!!

Best wishes,


Live Life Meaningfully

This life is just for once… None of us know what is before or beyond it. So, that we have in our hands is this life, the present time or the present moment. I know that you have your own commitments, work pressures, duties and responsibilities to take care of. I know that you have your own dreams and aspirations too. However, have you thought that ultimately what would be the significance and implication of all this, of all your deeds and endeavors? Whatever you are doing, is it sensible and worth? And in the muddle of the stressors and pressures of life… Is there still meaning and purity alive?

Each and every deed of yours defines you; it speaks volumes of the hard work and sincerity that you have. It reflects your goodness and magnanimity of your heart and soul. There is no doubt in it. However, at times you may be shaken off balance or off your track due to the negative forces of sadness, dejections, failures and frustrations, malice and wrong thoughts, illness and agitations. When this happens, it is very difficult to breathe life into life again. It becomes a Herculean task to guide life into the positive track again.

I came across some wonderful life-changing lines whiles reading. Those lines show us the true meaning of life, how it should be lived and what should be our endeavors to build a beautiful world for ourselves and others. So here it goes:

Promise Yourself

To be so strong that nothing

can disturb your peace of mind.

To talk health, happiness, and prosperity

to every person you meet.

To make all your friends feel

that there is something in them

To look at the sunny side of everything

and make your optimism come true.

To think only the best, to work only for the best,

and to expect only the best.

To be just as enthusiastic about the success of others

as you are about your own.

To forget the mistakes of the past

and press on to the greater achievements of the future.

To wear a cheerful countenance at all times

and give every living creature you meet a smile.

To give so much time to the improvement of yourself

that you have no time to criticize others.

To be too large for worry, too noble for anger, too strong for fear,

and too happy to permit the presence of trouble.

To think well of yourself and to proclaim this fact to the world,

not in loud words but great deeds.

To live in faith that the whole world is on your side

so long as you are true to the best that is in you.”

– Christian D. Larson, Your Forces and How to Use Them

Hope you liked the above lines friends! Life is an unknown journey in which we live mindfully and acquire milestones after milestones. We put maximum efforts to maximize our happiness and minimize pains. Sometimes, we are successful in it while at times we fail too. So, when you feel like you are losing the battle of life, do not give up! There is still hope. Remember the words above and keep the Promise.

Live life meaningfully and happily!!!

Test your Emotional World

Emotions play an integral part in the sun and shade of your life. If you are emotionally strong then no one and nothing can disturb or defeat you in the crossroads of life. However, if you are emotionally weak, then probably you may encounter innumerable problems day in and day out.

Your emotions are thus, the gateways to your happiness or sadness, peace or feelings of agitation, positivity or negativity in general. How is your emotional world then? Are you emotionally strong or weak? Are your emotions healthy or need improvisations? Take the test below to find out ad explore your emotional world:

Test your emotional world

  • Do you consider yourself as being emotionally sensitive?
  • How would you relate yourself: Emotional or easy-going?
  • Do your friends or relatives call you “an emotional fool”?
  • How do you react when you see a negative event in front of you: Do you get hurt easily? Do you burst into tears? Or do you hold yourself strong?
  • What is your problem-solving strategy: Do you tend to use your heart or mind more? Do you look into emotional descriptions or practical solutions?
  • What do you like more:  natural scenery or a logical word-game?
  • What do you like to do when you are alone: Would you like to listen to some soft, soothing music, or go partying with your friends?
  • Do you enjoy being alone or do you like to be around people?
  • How do you sleep: Do you like to sleep in your own free style or do you like cuddling a pillow or a soft toy?
  • Do you consider yourself as being an introvert or an extrovert?
  • How would you describe yourself: Calm, quite or excited and full of energies?

Psychologists say that if you consider yourself to be an emotional person, if you are sensitive towards your feelings and surroundings, if you like soothing music and staying isolated… Then you are an emotional person. If you like to cuddle up a pillow or soft toy while sleeping, if you can easily get hurt or burst into tears, if you are calm-quite-introverted and like natural sceneries… Then also you tend to be quite emotional.

Being an emotional or emotionally sensitive person has its own positive aspects. The depth and clarity of your emotional can adorn you with many positive and higher values of life. Your emotions and their abundance can make you pure-hearted, loving and caring, philosophical, understanding, empathetic and sincere. However, at times people may take undue advantage of your emotions and goodness. So, you need to beware of it and see that you are emotionally safe.

On the other hand, if your emotional strength is higher, if you are a practically oriented person and live life through your mind rather than your heart, then you have amazing strength, energies and vitality. You tend to have excellent planning – coordination – decision-making skills. You tend to be attention-seeking at times. And you have top-notch leadership qualities too. Your emotional strength and practical approach makes you a leader and helps you to help people who need your support.

Therefore, folks!!! Emotions have an extraordinary potentiality to give shape and direction to your life. The more emotionally healthy you are, the happier you will be. Emotional health is very necessary for all-round development in life. Your emotional world in a way defines you and your entity.

The world of emotions is sensitive, beautiful and is filled with astonishing life-changing potentials. The more you know about your emotions and the effectively you handle them… The easily you will be propelled towards overall sense of health, happiness, success, peace, contentment and well-being!!!

Mood Swings in Everyday Life

Moods manifest themselves in manifold hues and shades. Sometimes you may fell happy, while sometimes sad; at times you may feel irritated and at times elated. Different internal and external stimuli in your life lead to the expression of your moods in different ways. It is so interesting, isn’t it? If you maintain a mood diary and write about the varied kinds of moods you underwent on a given day, you will find amazing variations in it. Without our feelings, emotions and moods life would have been so mundane and automated. Moods add meaning and significance to life as a whole.

Do not get confused between moods and emotions. Moods are less intense in nature and can be either of a positive valence or negative valence. However, emotional reactions are much more intense and long-lasting. Etymologically, the word mood is derived from the Old English mōd which means military courage. It also refers to a person’s disposition, temperament or humor at a given period or particular time. Moods are of psychological importance as they play a vital role in regulating one’s daily life functioning. Your moods have significant influence on your personal life, social interactions, peer group interactions, professional life and your entire life ‘n’ lifestyle as a whole. Therefore, it is very important to recognize your moods, understand them and keep them under your conscious control.

Mood has to be controlled. Otherwise, it’s your master.” – Toba Beta, My Ancestor Was an Ancient Astronaut

Factors Influencing Moods

There are several factors that influence your moods and mood swings. Some of the pivotal ones are:

Factors Influencing Moods Descriptions
Lifestyle A good, well-balanced and healthy lifestyle leads to happy and healthy mood states. An unhealthy lifestyle makes you agitated, irritated, restless and mentally unstable
Diet Some foods and flavors like hot, spicy and tangy ones lead to moods of negative valence
Sleep If you do not get a good night’s sleep, if you are experiencing hypersomnia or hyperinsomnia… then these sleep problems are very likely to make your mood states unstable and lead to mood swings
Social Mood Sometimes your moods are influenced by the societal behavior or the crowd that you are in. If the people around you are in a good mood, you will feel the same too and vice versa
Medical Conditions Hormonal imbalances, menstrual cycles, PMS (Premenstrual symptoms), pregnancy, menarche, menopause, psychological medical conditions like depression, mania, etc are seen to influence your moods in different ways
Positive vs Negative Moods Positive and negative moods are also seen to play a vital role in the maintenance and regulation of moods. They are also influential in mood swings.

Mood swings are subjective in nature. Everything in and around you can radically alter your mood system. Passing or flunking an exam, getting loved or losing a loved one, falling sick or feeling healthy… Variations in your experiential world take you in a tour of different moods and mood swings. Sometimes understanding your moods and dealing with mood swings is easy. However, if you are unable to deal with mood swings, handle your moods or going through a medical condition that is influencing your moods then try the following tips and techniques:

Identify your moods

Many people don’t even realize the kind of mood they are experiencing or the fact that they are going through a mood swing! So, the first step towards controlling or dealing with your moods is to identify your mood tone. Are you happy or sad… are you feeling alright or emotionally restless—-try to ask yourself such questions and identify the tone and valence of your moods.

Release your moods

If you have a habit of bottling up or hiding your emotions or reactions, please don’t do so. If you are experiencing a mood and its reaction try to express it in adaptable ways. The more you bottle up or hide your moods, the more restless and agitated you will feel. This may also lead to severe mental health issues in future. So, if you are happy then smile, if you are sad then feel free and shed a few tears—-it’s quite natural.

Identify the triggers

There must be something that would be aggravating your negative moods or mood swings. Therefore, you need to identify the triggers and deal with them accordingly.


Eat healthy, sleep well, exercise, socialize with good people… In short maintain a good lifestyle. The healthier your lifestyle is, the healthier your moods will be.

Seek professional help

If you are frequently experiencing negative moods or mood swigs, then it could be due to a medical or psychological condition. In such a case, it is wise to seek professional help. Psychologists and psychiatrists can help you to effectively deal with it.

It’s Psycho-Quiz time: Test your Psycho-knowledge Skills

Hi folks! It’s time to test, rejuvenate and revive your psycho-knowledge skills. The more you know about psychology in everyday life, the more you know about mental health and the knowledge related to it… You can stay healthy, happy and deal with the stressors and pressures of life with greater efficacy. Our mental world, brain and its chemistry, body organs, thoughts, feelings and behaviors are all unique in themselves, aren’t they?

Interestingly, each and every bodily and mental function control and influence our practical and daily living to a significant extent. Not only in dealing with the curve-balls of life, but also in taking preventive and curative measures, etc… Knowing about our own body-brain mechanisms helps us in our all-round development too.

So here I present a crossword puzzle to you with questions. The questions are mentioned below and after that the answers are hidden in the crossword puzzle. Let us see how you do it and score!!!

Puzzle Questions:

  • One of the brain’s important function that helps in the process, storage and retrieval of information
  • Right handed persons are called
  • Persons with left hand dominance are known as
  • Who is the father of Psychology
  • Irrational, extreme fear of something is known as
  • If you are feeling very sad, dejected, hopeless, helpless, melancholic… you are probably suffering from
  • Which gas makes you laugh beyond control? Hint: It is also known as “laughing gas”
  • The functional part of the human brain
  • An important neurotransmitter or brain chemical
  • Your short term or working memory can hold… Bits of information

So folks! Hope you did the puzzle correctly. The more you score the right answers, the more your “psycho-knowledge” is. So give in your best shot and try out your best. Do share with us how many correct answers you got. The correct answers will be posted tomorrow.

If you have any queries regarding the questions and their answers, if you want to know more about the concepts then please feel free to write to us. If you are going through a difficult phase of your life, then also please feel free to write to us. Together, we can find a way to deal with your potential problems. We would be happy to assist you in any and every way we can.

Good Luck and Happy Quiz-Solving Time!!!

Gain Self-Knowledge with Therapeutic Writing

Are you confused, frustrated and stuck up with the potential problems of your life? Are you finding it difficult to reach to a right decision? Are you bottled up to your neck with negative, depressing emotions and have no one to share with? Do you want to know more about yourself – your positive and negative side, values, weaknesses, belief system and so on?… If you are going through one of these phases, then you are at the right place now.

Therapeutic writing may sound silly at first, but if utilized in a proper way it offers a lot of multi-faceted benefits to daily life ups and downs. Here are some benefits of therapeutic writing:

Therapeutic Writing Benefits:

  • Self-knowledge and expression
  • Channelization of emotions
  • Development of insight
  • Stress management and conflict resolution
  • Enhancement of outlook, understanding and other core skills
  • Improvement of cognitive skills like thinking, planning, decision-making, and so on
  • Serves as a key factor in problem-solving

So, those were some of the important benefits of therapeutic writing. Apart from these, it also offers a huge opportunity for:

  • Creativity,
  • Memory,
  • Looking into the different aspects of life,
  • Rejoicing positive moments spent,
  • Insight into ones own life, values, virtues and life cycle,
  • Positive and negative sides
  • Strengths and weaknesses

Now let us look into some of the methods or steps of therapeutic writing:


  • Relax yourself, sit in a comfortable position and make sure that the environment around you is calm and quite, away from distractions.
  • Make the writing material ready. If you want to write it in a diary or journal you can use it creatively and in a nice manner too. You can see them and decorate them as per your own sweet will. However, there are also online platforms that offer safe and secure area for writing your heart out. This is also a good option.
  • A good sitting position and adequate lighting play a vital role in helping you write in a lucid and vibrant manner. So, make sure that these aspects are in the proper place too.
  • First you need to write anything and everything that is in your mind, or that is bothering you. In other-words, it is a cathartic writing process that will act as a vent to all your pent-up emotions, problems and concerns.
  • Then, the next step is to write about your feelings concerned to the above person or situation.
  • Write about what step you are going to take in order to deal with those feelings and emotions
  • After that, you need to write about your positive values, virtues and where you need to fine-tune yourself and how.
  • Write about your short-term and long-term goals
  • Create a hierarchy of your goals
  • Write about plans and strategies to achieve them

The above mentioned steps need not be done all at once. You can do it at your own convenience and pace. Doing the above mentioned steps will not only help you to know yourself mote, release all your negative emotions… But also will impart you significant and worthy tools to deal with the potential problems of your life, know about your life goals and achieve them. It will also help you in problem identification, and problem solving. Therapeutic writing has all-round effects on one’s body, mind and life as a whole.

Environment and Mental Health

Green spaces have lasting positive effects on well-being” – Mark Kiver, Environmental reporter, BBC News

Hi folks! If you are someone who loves fresh air, clean environment and an organic lifestyle… Then you are at the right place. Welcome to my blog here. Today we will see how the environment around us influences our mental health. A study in the UK suggests that if you live in an urban area with a lot of green spaces in it, then it is going to have a long-lasting positive effect on your mental well-being. You would be less likely to suffer from depression, anxiety and other psycho-physical ailments.

There are several ways in which you can learn and observe environment’s effect on you. For instance, record your mood and thoughts on a sunny day, during rainy season and colder months. You will find radical differences between your thoughts, moods, feelings and behavior. Similarly, try doing the exercise when you are in a crowded city, and in countryside with lush green plantations. These are some of the easiest ways to observe how environment affects you and your mental world.

Let us look into some of the important environmental factors that affect mental health:

  • Availability of green patch or greenery around us
  • Whether we reside in an industrial area or market area / gated-well-maintained community or a simple residential complex
  • Access to nature and natural environment
  • Sensory stimulation or signals that you get from the environment in the form of smell, vision, taste, auditory signals, etc
  • Sense of security and satisfaction
  • Living in urban or rural environment or settlements
  • Presence of natural and well-balanced ecosystem around you
  • Overall environmental scenario around you

Well, these were some of the important aspects of the environment that have potential capacity to exert pressure or influence your mental health and well-being. Following are some of the ways in which the environment affects you or has a role to play in your life:

  • The environment around you plays a significant role in your mental capital or cognitive abilities
  • Living in a safe, green, conducive environment is seen to have positive effects on physical health and mental well-being
  • Stress, depression, frustration, work or family life imbalance, learning disabilities, cognition problems… To a certain extent all these ailments also occur due to threatening environmental conditions
  • The greener, the better… Clean, nurturing and safe environment leads to overall sense of physical-mental health and well-being.

Now, let me impart you some tips to make your environment safe and healthy; how to transform a threatening environment into a nurturing and healthy one:

Tips and techniques to stay fit and mentally healthy via a nurturing environment:

  • Try to stay in a calm and clean environment. You can also make your living environment neat and tidy.
  • Industrial areas emit a lot of atmospheric/environmental pollutants which exert a negative impact on the body and mind. Therefore, it is advisable to avoid settlements or residing near industrial areas.
  • As the temperature rises, our body temperature and mental activities become more vigilant and vigorous. This leads to mental reactions like aggression, frustration, lack of control, agitation, etc. So, try to keep yourself calm and hydrated during the hot summer months. Similarly, winter brings depression and winter blues with it. Therefore, it is wise to manage your lifestyle in accordance to the changing environmental conditions.
  • “The greener, the better” – Green trees and greenery release fresh oxygen into the air. When you breathe this pure oxygen it has a positive health outcome in your body and mind. If you can stay near greenery then its great, otherwise you can also try having your own flower pots, garden, kitchen garden, terrace garden and so on.
  • Leading an eco-friendly lifestyle has magical effects too. Try using products that can be easily recycled. Keep mobile phone usage to minimum, stay away from dangerous and unhealthy EMFs or electromagnetic fields; try opting for organic foods rather than canned or under-processed ones.
  • Be friendly to the environment, it will be your best friend too!

The environment in which you dwell or work, your living conditions… Every single aspect of nature and the world has immense potentialities to affect your inner and outer mental make up. The more clean, healthy and conducive the environment around you is… The more mentally healthy you will be. Making the environment a nurturing one may be the responsibility of our State’s concerned authorities, however, as citizens of the civil society we can also make our own efforts to make our environment eco-friendly, safe and healthy. If you have more ideas on making our environment healthy and safe, do feel free to write to us. Together we can share and care; together we can build a happy-healthy-safe environment and reap its health benefits!!!

Stay safe, stay happy and stay healthy!

Do you doodle?

Do you have a habit of scribbling lines, arrows, sceneries or stars; or simply writing your name, signature, etc when you are bored or preoccupied with some other thought?  If yes, then you are drawing or making “doodles”!!! Doodles are representative simple drawings or scribblings that have hidden meanings. Depending on your mood, unconscious motivations and personality you tend to draw doodles of different kinds. Doodles are subjective in nature and are repetitive too. It means that you can draw a same doodle over and over again.

In other words, a doodle is an unfocused or unconscious drawing made by an individual when his/her mind is otherwise occupied. I also doodle a lot. I like doodling natural scenes, flowers, etc. Examples of doodles can be found in the notebooks of school/college going students when they are bored in the class/lecture. If you are bored of a long telephonic conversation; and if you have a pen and paper next to you, there is every chance that you will pick it up and start doodling. Scribbling doodles is mind’s own way of preoccupying itself, releasing stress and pressure, day dreaming and sharpening memory too.

Do you know Alexander Pushkin? His notebooks are sterling examples of doodles. He used to make the profiles of his friend’s hands, feet, etc. Here is an illustration of his doodling:

Alexander Pushkin was a Great Russian author and poet of the romantic era. He is considered to be the founder of Russian Literature. Like him, the other noted personalities who also had the habit of drawing doodles are: Noble laureate poet Rabindranath Tagore, poet and physician John Keats; other literary doodlers like Samuel Beckett, Sylvia Plath and so on. Now let me tell you about the different kinds of doodles that people usually draw and what do they mean:

Doodles Meaning
Arrows Arrows reflect the subconscious motivation of an ambitious person. If a person draws arrows then he/she is determined to achieve his/her goal. So, the arrow is a medium of targeting the goal.
Flowers Flowers reflect your emotional responses, feelings, sociable nature and so on. Rounded, beautiful flowers positive emotions and sociable, family-oriented nature. However, sharp flowers or drooping flowers are a sign of tensions, worry and burden.
Faces If you have a habit of drawing doodles depicting faces, then it is a good gateway to your emotions and personality. Faces reflect your mood in general. Doodles of faces of children depict attention-seeking behavior; good looking faces are an indication that you have the ability to see good in others. While, profiles indicate introversion or an introverted nature.
Names and Signature If you tend to doodle your own name and signature then you want to make your mark in the world. You want to prove yourself worth. If you doodle some other person’s name then that person is in your mind and holds an important position in your life.
Ladder Ladder doodles are a sign of upliftment and ambitions. They also represent spiritual and philosophical values of life. Drawing ladder doodles is definitely a good sign and you have a lot more to offer to this world via your positive values, virtues and genuineness.
Houses House is a sign of comfort and security. Beautifully doodled houses show that you are loved and taken care of at home. You feel comfortable, safe and secure there. However, a house drawn with closed doors or without windows then it shows problems and unhappiness in home life.
Heart Drawing a heart, cupid striking a heart, arrows with heart… Everything shows that you are loving, caring, affectionate and a passionate lover. Someone special is in your mind at that juncture.

So folks, that was all about the interesting world of doodles. Doodling is a good way of relieving stress, boosting your memory power, getting rid of boredom and to express your subconscious motivation. However, beware of excessive doodling. It is sometimes great to be then and there at the present situation too!!! Hope you liked the blog.

Happy Doodling!!!

Empty Nest Syndrome: Pros, Cons and Solutions!

Sleepless nights, restless days… This is usually what happens when you are raising small kids. Regular feedings, dirty house, changing diapers, chaos and confusion become the rule of the day if you have a lil’ champ at your home. Sometimes it does feel great looking at the innocent and funny nuances of your child. However, sometimes it is difficult to balance life amid the nuisance too. Gradually days, months and years seem to move on and on in your constant oscillation between the nuance and nuisance. One bright day, you will be able to see that your child has already grown up and he/she is ready to leave home and explore his/her experiential world. The house and clothes will no longer be dirty, no more changing diapers or cleaning, no more spilling and spitting… This situation or insight comes as a major blow to majority of parents and caretakers. They fall prey to what is referred to as “Empty Nest Syndrome”. The word nest connotes a family staying together.

Empty nest syndrome refers to the feeling or symptoms of stress, anxiety, depression, concern, hopelessness, loneliness and sadness that is experienced by parents/caretakers when their children or grown up sons and daughters leave home. Usually full-time mothers and caretakers are the ones who are more susceptible to suffer from empty nest syndrome. However, sometimes fathers also experience the symptoms particularly when they are not ready for the transition of their offspring leaving home and the emotions related to it.

Empty nest syndrome may be unknown to many of you, but knowingly or unknowingly we all go through this situation and experiences related to it. If left untreated, empty nest syndrome can lead to major clinical complications in the form of anxiety, stress, depression, cognitive issues, problems in focus, concentration, hopelessness ‘n’ helplessness, addiction and so on. In short, this syndrome affects all dimension of life of an individual, viz. personal, social, professional etc.

Now let us look into some of the common factors that cause Empty Nest Syndrome. Once you know the causes, you can deal with it or prevent the same effectively too:

Causes of Empty Nest Syndrome

  • Children leaving home for the first time
  • Young adults leaving home for university or profession
  • Death of a loved one
  • General anxiety and so on

Symptoms of Empty Nest Syndrome

  • Anxiety and worrying about one’s children
  • Constant negative apprehensions
  • Depression
  • Guilt feelings
  • Loss of purpose in life
  • Feelings of rejection
  • Loss of interest
  • Social withdrawal
  • Changes in sleep and diet
  • Lack of personal care
  • Stress
  • Inability to work on the different aspects of personal, social, professional life, etc

Management of Empty Nest Syndrome

Empty Nest Syndrome can be managed and treated if you take proper steps towards the same. Here are some of the important ways that you can use for dealing with it:

Ways to deal with Empty Nest Syndrome

  • Talk to your friend or someone who can motivate you, understand your feelings and comfort you as well
  • Try to be more active during the free time that you get. Pursuing a hobby or anything that you now but had not been able to do it for long also helps
  • If the situation permits you, then keeping a pet with you is also an amazing way to deal with empty nest syndrome
  • Maintain a journal about your feelings , good memories with your children, an album of good times spent with loved ones… Writing and maintaining all these rejuvenates you from within and helps you to deal with the syndrome effectively
  • Spending more time with your spouse or partner after your children have left… gives both of you a chance to replenish your relationship, strengthen your relationship, share your thoughts-pains-emotions and make your relationship worthwhile.
  • Never hesitate to take professional help if you find that you are not being able to cope with empty nest syndrome.

Empty nest syndrome is no more untreatable. Starting from personal self-help to professional help… You can get over it and lead a healthy life ahead.

More than distance or proximity… It is the strength of the bond that counts

Psychological Solutions to Midlife Crisis

Innocence of childhood, energies and vibes of youthfulness, lessons of adulthood and wisdom of old age… Life manifests itself in many hues and shades. Each and every phase of your life reflects your journey towards self-refinement, achievements, learning, pleasure, pain, failures, success, knowledge and wisdom. In a way your life unfolds itself with new thoughts and motivated actions through every minute and each second. But, there are times when you would just want to halt and stop; ponder or think over the years passed by; about what you attained or lost; or about the meaning of life in general. This mostly happens once you become middle aged. The crises of life, the transition that one goes through and its repercussions that follow in due course during middle age is considered to be a sign of “midlife crisis”.

Technically, midlife crisis is a term developed by Elliott Jaques in the year 1965. Midlife refers to the time when adults realize about their own mortality, how much time is left for them and what have they done till the present juncture. Sometimes midlife crisis can be easily handled but, at times it becomes too much overwhelming to bear and leads to various psychopathological ailments. Have you come across someone going through midlife crisis? If yes, then it would be kind of you to share your experiences with us. It is something that can be resolved with therapeutic interventions, care and support. Do you know, what triggers midlife crisis? Let us look into some of the common triggers or causes of midlife crisis:

Causes of Midlife Crisis

  • Day to day stress
  • Death or loss of a loved one
  • Hormonal changes in the body
  • Problems or setbacks in career/profession
  • Misunderstanding or ill-behavior/feeling hurt due to one’s own family, kith and kin or significant others
  • Problems in marriage/relationship
  • Problems related to children, family or life in general

Do you know, men and women experience midlife crisis differently? For men, it is caused by work related issues and for women; it is due to a negative self-evaluation of their roles. This leads to manifold behavioral repercussions. Let me tell you in what ways does midlife crisis interfere with one’s daily life functioning:

A person experiencing midlife crisis can suddenly ram into negative thoughts and maladaptive behavior triggered due to it. He/she may buy expensive stuff, live life lavishly, become suddenly depressed or feel hopeless, feeling of guilt or remorse may sink in, fear humiliation and stay away from socialization due to this, he/she may get overly obsessed over his/her appearance and so on. People with midlife crisis often see their life as incomplete, a failure and they want to make their life dazzle through any way they can.

Here is how it feels when midlife crisis sets in: I would like to share some meaningful lines with you…

All three are hip-deep in midlife, when the eyes go and the waistline spreads and the city on the hill that shone so brightly in youth turns out to be more like a semi-incorporated town in the middle of a garbage strike. An age when a person can feel not so much himself as an inexplicably inferior version of himself.” – Mary McNamara

How to Deal with Midlife Crisis

Well, the good news is midlife crisis can be treated very effectively. The best part is it can be prevented as well. Simple efforts like talking to a friend or talking to a counselor helps one to deal with midlife crisis. Apart from this, more strategic intervention like Cognitive Behavior Therapy (CBT), Person-Centered Therapy, active resolution and coping with one’s problems/stressors or pressures, Gestalt Therapy, Psychoanalysis, good problem-solving and decision-making skills etc are some of the best ways to deal with and/or prevent midlife crisis.

Good and active lifestyle, proper nutrition, sleep and balanced diet are also some of the important helping factors that can keep midlife crisis at bay. The sparkling tool to avoid/deal with midlife crisis is to effectively cope with the ups and downs of life, to value yourself, believe in yourself, learn from your mistakes and celebrate your success.

Life is worth living in a meaningful way. So, try to live life in such a way that when you look back you can feel proud of your achievements, laugh over the moments that made you weak but still you fought back and stood strong again!!!